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Do they have to give me time off to get married?

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Question - (14 December 2014) 7 Answers - (Newest, 15 December 2014)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi,

Just a quick question. I am looking to get married next year 2015. Preferably during August, but anytime during the summer holidays is fine.

Now with regards to work, I would like to take two weeks off during wedding occasion, to include honeymoon also.

Since I am lowest rank in work, I have last choice in holidays and all the managers have chosen the summer holiday period. I got left with May. Which I do not want.

If I annouce to my collegues that I am getting married, would they allow me time off in Summer holidays?? Even though staffing is short and they need me?

Is there some sort of law that will allow them to give me time off??? UK LAW?

thanks

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (15 December 2014):

So_Very_Confused agony auntWhen my husband and I were engaged he was job hunting.

He has one thing he will never miss Our yearly 8 day gaming convention in the summer. The year he was job hunting we also had our out of town wedding/honeymoon planned.

He was honest about this when he was hunting and was willing to take leave without pay. The company hired him anyway and prepared for him to be gone when he said he would be gone and ended up paying him even though he had only worked there 6 weeks.

As for how they give leave... I work for a large federal agency. Leave is granted based on seniority of hiring. That's often a fact of life.

I am sure if you ask, and take leave without pay that they will let you go. The sooner you see if you can work it out the better.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2014):

Wow sounds like you work at a dictatorship, the hierarchy is apparent there! I've once worked in a place where the rules where the senior members chose leave first and I left. I told them my reason for leaving was because it is a complete inequality to treat the "lesser employees" as a lower class and that on their system no one other than the "chosen ones" will have time in July, August or December off and any reasonable employer tells their employees the requests are granted first come, first served... Rant over about twat bosses!

So you need to speak to your manager and say this is your once in a lifetime moment and that you would like to be planning it for August, surely if they're not completely heartless you'll be given some compassionate leave request to use your holiday time then.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2014):

no you'll have to use holidays

you'd only get time off for paternity but you'd have paternity rate then

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2014):

No,it's at their discretion.However,any reasonable boss would do their best to accommodate you as it's for your wedding-you just need to talk to them as soon as possible as the later you leave it the less they can do obviously.

Congratulations on your engagement :)

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A female reader, RubyBirtle United Kingdom +, writes (14 December 2014):

No. I'm afraid there are no laws in the UK that entitle you to time off if you're getting married.

But talk to your bosses as soon as possible and explain the situation and you might find them accommodating. Someone might have a heart and agree to swap annual leave if they hear it's because you want to get married. But this would be purely discretionary.

You might need to be flexible and forget about August or take only one weeks leave and have a honeymoon holiday later in the year.

Some employers might allow you to take your leave unpaid (which means that they can afford to hire a short term worker to cover you) but that would also be discretionary and would very much rely on the skills needed to do your job.

If you have very fixed ideas about your dream wedding (time of year, who can attend, venue availibility etc etc), then you may wish to consider postponing your wedding til the following year and put the annual leave request now.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (14 December 2014):

Honeypie agony auntLike jls022 mentioned, you have no "legal right" to get time off for your wedding, BUT if you are ANY kind of smart... you TALK to your manager NOW, so they perhaps can figure out how to make it work with everyone's holidays.

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A female reader, jls022 United Kingdom +, writes (14 December 2014):

As someone who has several people reporting to me, I'm sorry to tell you that there is no law that entitled you to this. You can only take the holidays your employer lets you take depending on the needs of the business at that time and within the allowance you have (usually around 35 days per year). You could try asking them if they will make an allowance in this instance, but it's completely at their discretion. They might be understanding and try to accommodate, or they might tell you to get married on a Saturday and come back in on the Monday. How flexible is your employer in other situations?

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