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writes:for about 6 months now, this married man and i have been fooled around. i have developed a lot of feeling for him. he lives away from me, so i only get to see him once or twice a month. recently ive learned that there are several other women hes been entertaining... do these kind of men ever change? should i just let this one go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni want to thank each of you for taking the time to answer my question...i appreciate you from the bottom of my heart :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2012): People in general remain the same throughout their entire lives no matter what they say.
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reader, Read-the-signs  +, writes (28 September 2012):
Yep. Let him go and don't get involved with this type again.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (28 September 2012):
Spoiler -
No kind of anyone ever changes.
People are who they are, and can appear to be someone different with great effort. At some point, the effort becomes too much and they go back to who they are.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (28 September 2012):
 No they never change. But you can. Stop seeing him. Stop being available when he blows into town for his next pitstopl. You're better than that! Do you really want to be someone's second best?.....
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (28 September 2012):
 I am going to agree 100% with So Very Confused.
There are plenty of dependable, available and single men out there that are dying to meet a quality woman. The question I need to ask is why are you so hung up on a guy that isn't 100% into you?
Some men eventually grow up, but in the meantime this guy is going to enjoy playing the field. He doesn't have to commit to you and can use you for his pleasure. If you aren't into him, he's got another girl waiting in the wings. Why would you compete for a guy like that? If you had a friend / daughter who was dating a man like that, what advice would you offer them?
I foresee a world of hurt in your future, all because you developed feelings for a chump who you hope you can change (trust me you can't)
Hopefully you hold out for a decent man who will treat you like a queen. Don't settle for anything less. Life is too short to be played out like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2012): Bottom line is. If women continue to allow these men to do what they do the absolutely not. You knew he was married. Had whatever fantasy you had as far as what type of.relationship the two of.you are going to have and now you got hurt. Its.classic cliche. How many times do you need to hear, read, or experience this type of behavior until women realize this is never going to.change. I'm sorry you got hurt but you have to own your part in it. You knew! You are going to have to suffer the consequences and learn from it and move on.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 September 2012):
The clue was that he was married. So many women have fallen for the crap married men spout. You've become one of them. He was never interested in you other than for the sex, and clearly he's not interested in the others either.
So, no, they never change.
And as the post below says, get checked out for STD's etc, because if he's putting it about, there's a chance he's given something to you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 September 2012):
 he's married
he's cheating on his wife and lying to her
he's lying to you
he's probably lying to those other women too.
do they change... I doubt it... he sounds like a user and a player... and I feel really sorry for his wife.
my advice... cold and hard:
end it with him ASAP
get yourself a full medical STD workup
and live well.
do not fall for his lies and lines.
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