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writes:im only thirteen but i masturbate up to 14 times a week usualy to the point of an orgasam and i often use lubricant to help prevent friction. I would like to know how much other people masturbate weekly, dose it end in an orgasam every time, do you use lubricant or a toy or just plainly your hands, have you masturbated with others before (I havent) how you clean up, and is it a normal amount of times that i masturbate??at the moment i think im some sort of freak because i havent talked to anyone about it, i have no idea if its normal and if others do it just as much.please answer im confused and a little scared about it not in a "something bads gonna happen if i do it" but in the way "is it rare and shamed apon to do so."Also dose it feel good to everyone? cause i dont feel it much when i do. And btw i think girls a lucky, they can have quickies in the toilets and it wont even make a mess. And lastly is it right to watchporn and what sort of porn turns some people on.AlexC 13 yrs year 8
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2012): Masturbating is healthy and it does releive stress and can help you sleep i personally just use spandex material as a lubricant can get messy and a disposibble cup and a bit of toilet paper
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reader, Alexandre +, writes (7 May 2012):
Alexandre is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you to all who have answered to this question i have made a decision to masturbate less and to try and stop whatching porn. i have now received enough information on this subject and will block the letters from being sent to my email.
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (6 May 2012):
 Hi, I think at young ages and discovering things you are free to go with how you feel. It's a private thing you do and you are free to enjoy. Some use lube or baby oils due to circumcision as there is no foreskin. However, it's whatever feels comfortable. You can use pictures of your favorite celebs or think about your favorite person and make sure you have paper tissues to catch any release of sperm. The porn thing is rather an adult theme so I wouldn't suggest that. Rather, pics of clothed celebs or decent pictures that are not over 18's material. I think the thing to remember is be private and make sure you do it in your own private space.
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reader, xgod  +, writes (6 May 2012):
 LONG ANSWER, but WORTH THE READ:At age 13, your body is filled with hormones you have never had to deal with before now. You have urges and erections for things you never imagined would ever stir these feelings before within you.Masturbation is healthy. It releases stress, gives you pleasure, and helps you be more calm and collected.However, masturbation is not a topic to discuss in public or even private with family members, unless your family is open about all things sexual.Many religions hold that ever sperm is a life and masturbation by men is a waste of life essence.When your reproductive organs create sperm, those sperm eventually die within your testicles, but the cells are recycled into new sperm cells. Someone your age produces about 10 million sperm cells every time you masturbate. The species of homo sapiens is virile, fertile, and constantly booming in population. Losing a few million sperm cells every day is normal and not a problem, regardless of any religious censorship or accusation of sin.So... you do it about 14 times a week at age 13? That is normal. Most teens your age have done it at least once and many are doing it at least as frequently as you are. However, it is not necessarily a good idea to discuss it with them. It creates an awkwardness and embarrassment and could lead to an adult bringing the hammer down on their perceived morality.When I was your age and discovered the pleasure and ecstasy of orgasm, I did not know about using lubricant. What I have today is a sleeve I purchased from adameve.com which requires lubrication. While I am married and love my wife, she is not always up to it or is too tired to be willing to have sex. We men have needs more often (in my perception) because our sex organs are extensions outside our bodies. The friction or inadvertent vibration or movement of something we are sitting on can trigger an erection. At your age, when this happens, it may seem difficult to relieve that erection in order to avoid embarrassment in public.If you find yourself aroused and unable to discretely relieve yourself without a mess, try thinking of something that you hate. Something you really get annoyed at, a person who is ugly and smells bad and drives you insane with rage. Think of that and take slow, silent, deep breaths. This usually works for me when I find an unexpected tightness in my pants.You are not a freak. Yet you do not need to talk to anyone about this. You can post here anonymously as you have done. The only thing that could happen that would be bad is if you rub and create friction. If you feel a pain, stop and listen to your body when it tells you it hurts. If you use lube, you will need a wash cloth and towel to clean up. If you do not use lube, keep that washcloth handy if it gets messy - at least some tissues or paper towels...As far as masturbation without lube, the outer skin on your penis is flexible and can be gently stroked up and down, creating tension and pleasure without moving your hand on top of the skin. Just grip firmly enough that the skin moves a little bit around your spongy blood-filled erect penis.If you did not know, an erection is medically the filling of your penis which contains a sponge-like tissue that your arousal causes to be filled with blood, causing it to stand and grow firm. The more aroused you are, the more blood fills your penis and stiffens it.As for pleasure, there are times when the slightest touch can set a man into ejaculation and other times when the erection can be a nuisance, but releasing that ejaculate of sperm may be the only way to let the blood flow back into your body from your penis.I truly hope this helps.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 May 2012):
 I agree with Person12345
lube is fine
if you are doing it say to wake up and to go to sleep
it sounds perfectly normal to me...
if you give up activities to stay home and masturbate, then it's too much
and yes you are a bit young to watch porn.... real life is not like that at all...
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reader, person12345 +, writes (6 May 2012):
 Check out this page:
http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/resources/FAQ.html#masturbation
To summarize, according to this study only 60% of men masturbate at least once a month, but 80% do it rarely. The numbers for women are more variable based on age. Those numbers sound a little low to me, but the Kinsey Institute is pretty much the most reliable source for this. Around 50% of women aged 20-40 have tried toys (that's 50% of ALL women, not 50% of women who have masturbated). Far fewer men use toys, but some do. I don't have numbers on who uses lubricant, some do, some don't. I'd say of the men who masturbate most probably do use lubricant.
Most adolescents and adults who masturbate do so to orgasm. It would be more common to find people masturbating without orgasm among young children or among women.
If you are masturbating so often you are needing to go into toilets that's too much. Also if you are masturbating so often it doesn't feel good anymore, that's too often. Cut back and it will feel better. You can become dependent on masturbation and if you literally can't even get through a schoolday without doing it, that's a sign something is wrong.
I have never heard of women going into public toilets to masturbate. I'm sure it's happened, but it's rare. Men can reach orgasm with their hands much much faster than women can. Just using their hands if most women went into the toilets people would assume something was wrong because it took so long, the average is 20 minutes for women.
Lastly someone your age shouldn't be watching porn. It can warp your perceptions of sex, women, men, relationships, and sexual frequency. Watching porn can make you think others are having sex more often than they actually are and make you feel like you need to masturbate more often than you do.
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