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writes:this guy who is about 3 or 2 years older than me asked me out on a date. he always calls me babe and he said he would be honored to take out someone as pretty as me.but the thing is iv never gone out on a date, i want to though but for some reason going with him makes me uncomfortable. it might also be because he said mabey we could go to his place after and hes a pot head. but im not a mean person and i have no idea what to say and how to do it.so i have 2 questions 1. how do i let him down gently without me feeling bad?2. dose this mean when another guy around my age will ask me out will i be afraid and dose that mean im not ready to date?please help Reply to this Question
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reader, xAx  +, writes (16 August 2009):
 From the sounds of it, this boy won't be mad if you just simply tell him you don't like him. He's old enough to get other girls and might be after you as you're a simply target.I don't think this will always happen. As you say, you feel uncomfortable around him, so why should you date him?Find a boy that you can be yourself and someone who does not use drugs. Drugs can lead to violence and you need to be careful. Hope this helps X
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): In all truthfulness, 13 is too young to date, but sometimes parents want to be kind, but if the authorities come along, they have to change their tune. Your family is still pretty much raising you and if you did have a boyfriend, a family would not allow the guy to be in the way of their raising, so could then drop your guy like a tonne of bricks too. Sometimes you get boys who want to do the wild thing and they phone all the girls at school. She gets a reputation if she goes along, then lots more boys phone her. Sometimes boys are legitimate and like you. This boy is older than you. He's either old enough to know better or he isn't a very bright boy and is ignorant. What I'm saying is you shouldn't really be in this position. Guys basically move on quickly. Out the door, slap bang, they are with another. No you wont hurt him.
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