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writes:do guys have forgiven nature or not.guy said i was rotten to him years ago and he still mad me for it.and i said sorry and i didn,t mean to hurt his feelings.but i really didn,t .but i though he was making fun of me,i didn,t even know he liked me .but he did ask out a lot goodlooking girls before he asked me out,i didn,t know if he saw as freind or a girlfrend,but i am very plain,shy,quiet girl, Reply to this Question
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reader, Griffo +, writes (14 March 2009):
 I really feel sorry for some women because all there lives they have met men who are so crule in the end and that's all they come to know.
A girlfriend of mine actually thought that was normal so she started doing it herself to guys when the relationship ended. Then a great guy came along for her and was actually nice to her in the breakup she could'nt get her head around it for a long time... Anyway now thay are friends but have gone there own seperate ways in terms of dating/relationships.
Its a sad thing when it end in a bad way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): I'd admit I was hard on him but I didn't think or thought he'd say I was a total bitch to him. I thought me and him got on well. I knew nothing about this. I never thought he'd be so callous and cruel and so angry, cold at me.I said I was very sorry and I didn't mean to hurt his feelings. I told him I like him. I never meant to hurt his feelings.
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reader, Anonny  +, writes (4 March 2009):
Obviously - you cannot tar men with all the same brush!
- But I must admit, speaking from experience, the only two people I have ever fallen out with and who refuse to speak to me now are ... MEN!! - So yes I think men do hold grudges and sometimes are too proud to forgive!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): Actually it depends, as others said both men and women can be just as forgiving.
But - men put much, much higher emphasis on principles than women do or even try going round it. Hence for a lot of big things men are much more reluctant to forgive.
For example, although in general both men and women don't take back a cheating partner, men are still much less probable to taking back cheats, they are much more concerned with the fact that their partner even betrayed them at all and no matter how much they love their cheating partner they won't take them back due to the pain of such an important principle being broke. Women in the same position with the same kind of love on the other hand are much more willing to overlook the prnciples and look futher into as many aspects as they can and are much more susceptible to taking back cheats.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): I think men hold on to things a lot longer than women do. I believe that women are more forgiving than men. Men tend to hold a grudge...for years some times!
If you look at statistics, for instance, of alcohol problems in a relationship...women tend to stay and try to help, men can't hack it if their woman has a drinking problem (or drugs) He is more likely to walk away. I read that many years ago, and I don't remember the numbers, but that has always stayed in my mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): Aswell man and woman have forgiven nature, but men a bit more and women can be more mean unfortunately.
To my opinion, this is a very important thing to look at if you ever start a serious relation.
Find somebody who has the 'Love' genes and avoid somebody with 'mean or hate' genes.
You can not always recognize this immediately, but if you want me to explain how to recognize, you can contact me.
Nice question btw
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reader, Griffo +, writes (4 March 2009):
Of course we do. Why is he making you feel so bad? to call him and keep making you feel guilty??? so you feel obliged to speak to him all the time? sounds like he could be using it as a way to lead you on kind of like hooking a fish on a line before he reels you in. if you know what i mean.
as for the rest of your question Guys usually ask out his favorite first then ask the next and the next and the next until one says yes, not that your not his fav sometimes the best comes last ;)
Just see what happens, if he plays it for too long then move on.
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