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writes:I was wondering if men find a curved tummy a turn off? I'm not overweight by any means (although I used to be), nor am I particularly thin. I'm probably relatively average for girls my age in my country (about size 10, 5ft7/170cm, 65kg/143lb)but my tummy is quite curved and my hips are quite rounded. I really want a flatter tummy because I get self-conscious of it around my boyfriend. Are men turned off by curved tummies? I know that I could probably make it flatter but I would have to dedicate a lot of time to the gym and I'm studying postgraduate at the moment which is quite intense so I'm trying to work out if it's worth it. All opinions welcome :)
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (9 April 2014):
 If you have a boyfriend who is happy with you then I really wouldn't worry about it. Think about it like this, if he didn't like the way you looked he wouldn't be with you, and I think when people are self concious about how they look its more un-attractive than being confident and happy with the way you look. Even though I am not a man, i've learnt long enough from being on this planet that everyone has different tastes. Some men like girls who are stick thin with flat tummys, overs like girls who are curvy and thick, and some men like women who are extremely big yet confident in there size. I know that is hard to believe with todays media broadcasting there perfect examples for what women should look like, but it is true, each man and women is different in what their tastes are. By the sounds of it you are not overweight so you have nothing to worry about, and even if you were over-weight and happy with the way you were, even then it wouldn't matter. I would just take it easy, learn to love yourself a bit more and be confident with what you have and don't try and obsess over what you don't have. Like they say, if you have it then flaunt it. Good Luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2014): I watched one French show recently about plastic surgeries. What was interesting with one client, who wanted breast implants, when she got undressed, a surgant said that she has man's body. She was obviously an athlete, with defined abs, arms, and absolutely no fat on her tummy. Pointing out to different parts of her body the doctor said, that these amount of muscles and this little fat only men can have. My point is that women naturally have fat on tummies, because this is how nature indented. After the age of 19 metabolizm changes significantly and fat distribution also, as nature prepares women for motherhood.,All the answers here are right to the point, if you stomach is a sack, then don't worry, you are fine.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 April 2014):
 I'll come in your help by quoting one more from my abundant stock of popular Italian sayings : " A woman with no tummy is like a sky with no stars ". I.e. : ok, sky is always nice, but without that little sensual curve, it's sort of lackluster.
Granted, Italians have always been more accepting of female rotundities than Anglos - and even now that everybody has become more health and fitness conscious and eased down a lot with the pasta - still, the last thing that local men here lust after is a woman with a six pack. The idea being- slender is nice, taut- uhm, very debatable .
But regardless of cultural perceptions, there still remains a fact that Tisha quoted, i.e. that fat distribution in males and females is different, and it is supposed to be so. You are SUPPOSED , after puberty, to have a layer of fat on your abdomen. Not a huge flabby overhanging gut , of course, but a not invisible layer of fat . Which may also cover iron muscles underneath , but still remains perceptible. When it's not, it means either you are a professional athlete , or , you are skinnier than it's wise for you.
Now it all depends from HOW visible. If you have a potbelly and look like Winnie the Pooh after a honey binge, then it's not good healthwise, because it means you have trouble processing insuline , probably due to a diet too rich in carbohydrates, alcohol and animal fats, and / or that your thyroid hormones are too low while the surrenals are too high.
But if it's just a moderate ,soft curve , guys that have a problem with that are guys who have a problem with the regular female body altogether.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (9 April 2014):
 You have a boyfriend? If he was turned off by the curved belly, he would be gone. Don't ask him if your belly bothers him, ask him if he thinks you are attractive. You probably won't believe him if he says 'no' to the first question, but you stand a chance of believing him if he says he likes your body just the way it is.
By the way, curvy belly and curvy hips are what are called secondary sex characteristics, women develop fat deposits in certain areas as they reach puberty. It's normal and natural.
You sound healthy in body, don't fall into the trap of being overly critical in mind of that lovely body!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (9 April 2014):
Only virgins with unrealistic expectations will be bothered.
Most guys are aware that nearly all real women have bellies. I love em. My wife is 110 pounds and doesn't have a flat tummy.
If it really bothers you there's a simple trick that models use to get rid if their belly that you can do at home. Its called Photoshop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2014): I love soft bellies, OP. I prefer them over flat ones because you may be surprised to hear but most flat ones I've come across belonged to women so obsessed with their bodies that they were chores.
Couldn't eat anything fun, always were so fussy or drink alcohol regularly, never shut about their weight, always on some shitty diet that wasn't going to work or they had an eating disorder.
OP women's metabolisms change as they grow older and of course after kids most lose the ability to have a flat stomach at all. If we found that a turn off then you'd know about it.
OP look around you, look at all the variations of couples and married people around you when you're out shopping or whatever. Most of those women don't have a flat stomach, it doesn't matter a damn.
What turns us off more than anything is obsession with body image, because if you tell us you're ugly or fat enough times it'll start to become a reality in our heads.
Happy + healthy = beautiful no matter what your size, shape and you know obese/overweight people can be very healthy and beautiful.
So_Very_Confused you know the bikini bridge thing was a prank made up by the guys on 4chan? They found the idea that girls would make up a bullshit beauty concept such as the thigh gap so hilarious they decided to make up their own one called the bikini bridge. It's gas that it's actually caught on, they toyed with the idea of protruding ribs but they couldn't think of a catchy name for it.
OP concepts of beauty were not made up by us guys, you ladies are the ones who put that pressure on each other. Seriously next time you're in town or in a shopping centre observe the couples around you. We love every shape and size of woman. Just don't become an obsessed chore who moans about it all the time. Be happy, healthy and a decent person and no matter what you look like you'll be beautiful, that's how it works. Life's not a competition either so don't bother comparing yourself to anyone else.
If you don't naturally have a flat stomach then it takes an obsessive lifestyle to attain and maintain and it's not necessary.
Also when has a guy ever asked you about your weight or BMI as a pre-requisite to dating you? It just doesn't happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2014): If you want to workout more do it but only for your sake , not for any man. I don't thik that anyone should work out more that they want to. It's not going to last, a one point you will have enough. You just have this body type, fat collects on your stomach more than any other places. You right, you are not by any means overweight, you are tall, and 65 kilos is normal for your height.I am 164 sm, and weigh 63 kilos, buti am much older than you, I don't have round tummy, because my fact collects on my hips and legs. Just different body types. I personally think that though each of us has a type, when it comes to dating someone or getting into relationship, what does it matter. I am sure that if you are in good shape enough, your a little extra fat on your tummy won't matter to any sane man
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 April 2014):
 Women are supposed to have tummies... this whole "bikini bridge" thing is crazy... we need body fat to have our periods and to pro-create... we are supposed to have hips and tummies...
take a look at Marilyn Monroe:
http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/236x/93/de/37/93de3744c163ee14de0a446e140721dd.jpg
this was THE SEXIEST woman around... wow! now the press would call her FAT!
Most men love the woman they are with and don't judge us as harshly as we judge ourselves.
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