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writes:i know i like my bf's best mate, it all started like thisme and my bf live together and we have being going throught a rough patch. i dont think he appreciates me enough i do everything for him, we have been together for 2 years now this all started wen my bf's best mate broke up with his gf.i stare at him all the time, laugh at his jokes and even try to sit close to him the dilema is stupied, me set him up with my mate and they're all snuggles and stuff i cant even look over i know its jealousy its bad.this saturday me and the best mate bumped into each other and nearly got lip to lip, we both went i will go this way you go that way i just really cant stop looking at him we go to footall together and everything, obviously my bf is there too.it feels so good to get this of my chest but the question is.do i wanna be with my bf?do i tell the best mate?or do i think its silly and try not to see him as much?help!!!!!!!!
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reader, mrvhappy +, writes (1 November 2010):
Hi,
Even if you split from yr man, if you are thinking of dating his best mate, I think that you will potentially loose both.
You see theres an unwritten code that exists between BF's
You DONT
1) Date eithers EX
2) Date yr BF's sister
Unless yr man "gives" his mate "permission" to date you you will loose both and then what?
Try and keep away from his mate and concentrate on yr own relationship..tell him how you feel.
Good Luck
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 Only you can tell how you truely feel, taking the friend out of the equasion for a moment take a look at your relationship and ask yourself are you happy with your boyfriend, you say you are going through a rough patch but do you love him? With some work put in by both of you do you think you could be happy together? If you feel that it just isnt working then i think you should break up with your boyfriend and concentrate on yourself for the time being.
As for his best friend is this a road you really want to go down? I understand that you cant help who you develop feelings for but would it be worth breaking a friendship over because they wont be friends if he hooks up with you its the one rule of friendship therefore i think that you should be prepared for that as he might not go near you for the sake of his friend keep that in mind. But if you still feel like you want to tell him how you feel then do that and take it from there but make sure you arent still in a relationship with your boyfriend if you are going to tell him how you feel goodluck.
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