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writes:So, I was in a relationship with this guy I loved, and suddenly I felt like I needed out and I couldn't mentally commit to a relationship. Since I broke up with him about 2 months ago I haven't stopped thinking about him. I still have feelings for him and I want to get back together but, I also feel like something is holding me back. I still talk to him everyday and he tells me he still loves me. I don't want to try again and hurt him again. What do I do?
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (6 January 2012):
 Ask yourself WHY you needed an out and why you couldn't commit yourself to him. What is it about him or this relationship that is not doing it for you?
It's easy and normal to miss someone once they're gone. After all, you did spend a lot of time with this man and you're used to talking and being around him. Just because you miss him doesn't mean you should be with him, or even that you love him. Take a look at what's holding you back. Understand that reason and listen to it.
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reader, SonOfMan  +, writes (6 January 2012):
 Talk to him about your feelings and concerns. Try to figure out why you are holding back.
Does commitment scare you?
Are you still mentally not ready?
Do you want him just for "fun?"
Also find out what he wants in the long run and how committed he is. You both have to be equally committed for this to work.
Maybe just take things "slow" (i hate that phrase!) and hang out, talk and enjoy each other's company while maintaining honest communication and see how that develops.
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