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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months now. He tells me how he talks to other girls on the phone and hangs out with them including his ex girlfrinds. He goes to parties and everything. Should I trust him that he is not going to do nothing with any other girl? He also said I should share him. Please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2005): It is good that he is being honest with you about talking to them and hanging with them. If he was hiding it then you should get suspicous. But you have to trust him and if you still have doubt talk to him but in a tatic way to see if you find out anything in the way he talks or the way he uses his words. But you have to have trust and you want to give each other plenty of space so you aren't so clingy of each other that is one reason most guys cheat or leave because they don't have enough space. but follow your heart
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2005): if i were u i wouldnt trust him because if he's tellin u to share him that's not right he's urs n urs only! lol but yeah n like the saying is "if u have no trust there's no love" you don't have to listen to me but if he's serious about sharing him then i would dump him.... but that's just my opinion hope it helps....
Love, anonymous
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reader, Calidus +, writes (18 December 2005):
the fact he tells you about them and all shows that he doesnt think its a big deal and that could show that his not doing anything behind your back since his doing it in the open with you fully aware.. do you go with him to any parties? if not ask him to take you, this would show that there is nothing going on, also remember people are allowed to have their own friends and this matter could be resolved by you talking to him about your fears and ultimatly just trusting that he loves you and wouldnt sneak around on u.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2005): Hey, I'm a young girl with the same problem, except my boyfriend doesn't want to be "shared". I can understand your man seems to be the life of the party at times and if you have a good trust between the two of you, then don't worry about it. Then it comes to the "sharing" part. First, sit him down and have a discussion, ask if he would be ok with you sharing yourself with other men. If he says its ok with him, then I'm sorry but there's something wrong. Your man should be yours alone (not to sound crude) but its true. The relationship you and him have should be different from the ones he has with friends and ex's. If he's a good man, he'll know when to draw the line if one of his friends gets "too close for comfort". This is something you should also pray about, if it gets out of hand, consider slight counceling. I hope you take my advice to heart. God bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2005): tell him you don't come second to nobody. if you don't trust him then you shouldn't be with him, because if yall don't have trust yall ain't got nothing.
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