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writes:I am a Christian, and have been my whole life. I am very open to hearing about and understanding peoples points of view, and am not offended by people who think differently than I do.I am currently dating a non-christian boy. We broke up before, and my parents were very happy about it. However, we have gotten back together and I have not told my parents.My mother has straight out told me I can't date someone who isnt Christian, and she wouldnt support me at all. I understand where she is coming from, but it hurts that my own mother would not support me in this. It also annoys me that I am 19, and she thinks she can tell me this because I have not dated before, aside from him. (Protecting me I suppose)I am really depressed thinking that I will never be able to tell my parents about my boyfriend until I move out. My boyfriend and I have very different views, but we both respect each others opinions, and one of the reasons he likes me is my conservative nature. Any relationship takes work, religion or not.What should I do? I really wish my parents could accept him.
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reader, Jackalus  +, writes (6 July 2011):
They should accept him but try bringing him to your church
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reader, wiseoldman +, writes (11 May 2011):
At your age, he may not be the ultimate boy for you for any number of reasons.What is with religions that go on endlessly about love and can have so many adherents, but in those same religions can have adherents who can hate? Or be bigoted and hate others who are not in their religion? Or can talk about love and forgiveness yet be hypocrites? This situation is going to teach you to either knuckle under to a bigot, or start thinking for yourself and standing up to a hypocrite. Very best of luck- it won't be easy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2011): I completely understand what you are going through. I am a Christian as well and I currently dating a non-Christian guy. My parents also don't like the fact that I am dating him. I know how hard it is to know that your parents are not there for you because you are not doing what they want you to do. But you can't keep hiding this from them because sooner or later they are going to find out. Is better being honest with them from the beginning. I am not going to lie to you and say that your parents are going to be happy about this, but you are an adult now and you have the right to make your own decisions. Even though I been with my boyfriend for a year and a half my parents are still not happy with my decision. But I am happy with it and they have their own lives now and I have to make my own. I hope your parents will learn to be a little more open minded or they might lose their daughter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2011): you should tell your parents, theyre acting silly, but if thats how they are, you can't really change that, maybe they're just a little bit old fasioned and think they know what's best for you but are too naive and have no idea about what goes on in reality, my mom was similar, thats how i can understand,
But ye, the best thing for you to do is tell them, and also, be strong, tell them they have to accept it. because it's your life not theirs,
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