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writes:My ex gf cheated on her then fiance, now husband with me. It happened after a night of drinks, a conversation that we wanted to be friends, and that she wasn't as happy as she was when she got engaged. I in a way started to think there was a chance for us to get back together, as alcohol can affect your mind, so it seemed like a good idea. She satisfied me orally and i didn't do anything back, and in the morning, I woke up and realized that this is no girl that I would ever want to be with, and in a way, helped me realize a bit of closure that this isn't someone I could ever spend my life with.I'm dating my new girlfriend, never have cheated, never have looked at another girl before, and am completely over my ex. Never have contacted my ex other than saying hi in passing in a social situation. I love my girlfriend, but do I owe her to tell her this? I have no feelings for my ex at all, but I don't want to go and blab this around and ruin my ex's marriage, because it really doesn't concern me.are my thoughts on this correct? Am I supposed to tell my girlfriend now this? Or is this just better off un said? I have a sense of guilt knowing my ex was engaged, but at the same time, had the feeling (while intoxicated) that it might have been more than a drunken mistake, only to wake up and realize guilt that I did this to another person, but also relieved that it wasn't me that was cheated on.
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reader, Nithyanala  +, writes (26 October 2010):
 There is nothing to be accomplished by telling her this. Let bygones be bygones and your guilt, if any, your own to deal with.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (26 October 2010):
 What exactly would your gf get out of knowing this information?
I say keep it to yourself, deal with the guilt, and focus on being a decent person both in and out of relationships. You don't have to blab every bad part of your life, you know.
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