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writes:ok this is kinda hard for me to write this but i really need advice, Im still good friends with my ex bf and we do still get on great,he has a new gf whos pregnent with his baby and yes i admit i find it really hard sometimes to see them both together Anyway when his gf isnt around and at work he always says thing to me like do you want sex basic things like that,Anyway the other day he admited to me that he has cheated on his gf only a few weeks ago and twice he said its with his ex(NOT ME) the one before me and he said the reason he has done it is because she wont tell anyone, Hes also told me hes slept with her best mate and that and i no for a fact hes texting this girl behind her bk and he told me that hes going to shag her when they do meetWell im not sure what to do now, i think she needs to no what her bf and the father of her unborn baby is doing behind her back but im also worried that if i do say something its going to be like im the one whos not over him and he properly is going to change his story and say im making it up and i no who shes going to belive Seriously what should i do i really think she needs to nobecause to be honest if it was my bf doing it to me then i would want to noAmy louise
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): Okay, if i were you, i would definitly not tell her that he is cheating, thats just gonna make major drama. What i would do is talk to him about it and tell him its not right for him to cheat. If that doesnt work then forget them both and get a new damn friend cause something is wrong with the one you got.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): Why are you good friends with this person? Maybe you should have a talk with him instead of her. Let him know that if he doesn't come clean with her that you will be telling her. She's better off hearing it from him than you anyway and at least give him a deadline or opportunity to do it. You say he's your good friend so don't you think you owe it to him to stand your ground with him and not go behind his back and tell her? This would be the mature way to handle it. Plus he'll stop trying to take advantage of you.
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reader, always.you  +, writes (9 June 2009):
 Ive been in the same posiotion except his girlfriend wasnt pregnant and i was the girl he was cheating with..it was because i still cared though. She loved him so much as did i.. I knew that either way i was going to end up hurt if i told he would hate me and if i didnt and someone found out the girl would hate me.. and i never wanted tto hurt his girlfriend or him because i stillcared, but then i thought if i was her id want to know. You should tell her. The girl said it hurt alot because i loved him but id rather cry from the truth then smile from a lie. You should tell her sweety. Yall can both find someone better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): I's say that what her and the baby don't deserve is a man/father who's running around cheating on the family. Children should be raised under good influenced only. It's not better to have a dishonest, disloyal, jackass, uncaring father in her life then it is to have none. Trust me. She can move on and find a man who will treat them both right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): "because to be honest if it was my bf doing it to me then i would want to no"You're on the right track. Treat others how you would like to be treated. Don't let this poor girl waste away her time and heart on someone who is hurting her repeatedly behind her back.She may not believe you but at least you can say you tried. Offer to be there for her when you tell her and try to come off as a sincere, likeable person. You seem to have a very good heart. ~SY.
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reader, kittykhaos +, writes (9 June 2009):
 This is a tough one because what is likely to happen is you are going to be made out as the bag guy. I agree she needs to know also if your ex is propositioning you then he is not your "friend". The best thing to do is to stay well clear of this situation because eventually he WILL get rumbled and the blame will rest on him entirely. Just do yourself a favour and back away from him and make sure you don't become the next girl he screws behind her back.
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reader, natasia +, writes (9 June 2009):
 Hi there
I don't think you should say anything. She is in a very vulnerable position, and she doesn't need to know this AT ALL. She needs him there and with her throughout the pregnancy and when the baby is born -if you tell her, that probably won't happen.
Just because you would want to know, doesn't mean she would - you CAN'T make that decision for her, or, indeed, for him.
Please, I really think you should absolutely keep out of this. It isn't your business, and you can't be 100% certain that a tiny part of you wouldn't be satisfied to see them split up. But don't do it to her and the baby - they don't deserve it.
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