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writes:Hey everyone, I'm sixteen years old. It's important you know that I am a very shy, reserved person before I share with you my predicament.Ok, so about a year and a bit ago, I met this guy, we'll call him Ed. He was insterested in my friend, they never got together. Over time I realised I liked Ed a LOT. But I had a boyfriend. Not being one to jump from guy to guy I stuck with my man. In January he ended our relationship. Ed and I had become closer friends and I'd realised months beforehand my feelings were fairly strong. (my boyfriend never knew that)So anyway. Ed and I talk a lot. he's really been there for me. I miss him whenever we're apart (even if I've just seen him!). Whenever he hugs me my heart beats so fast I think I'll pass out. I think I love him. Truly.But he had a girlfriend. She's pretty, very pretty and they're very happy. They understand eachother and love eachother for who they are. I'm not one to break people up, so before I'd never dream of telling him how I felt. but my unrequited love is a real downer. Do I tell him? Do I stop being his friend and cut him out of my life? Do I stay his friend and be happy for him and try to stop loving him? Help needed. thankyou,Troubled, Age 16.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (1 July 2009):
 nooo hun don't cut him out your life i mean that's fair enough respect him and his girlfriends relationship that's good of you :)shows you're a strong girl
but certainly stay friends i mean you guys are only 16 who knows what will happen down the line i mean he may break up with her and turn to you for help and things develope into something a bit more :)
keep with it but as friends :)
good luck hun message me you need anything
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, kokopebbles  +, writes (1 July 2009):
stay his friend. So that way if he loses his girlfriend, you'll be there for him...he'll run back to you and then the two of you could go out. There is no sense in sacrificing the friendship that you have with him, when in turn it could grow into something more. You never really know if his relationship with that other girl is 'just'. It may actually fall apart. Who knows? All i know is that you should be there for him, incase something does happen, because that's what friends do. Just don't tell him how you feel until he's over the other girl
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): perhaps you should move on with your life. Butting in will do you no good. Infact it may do harm with the relationship that you already have with the guy, granted that the two of you are just friends right?. If you truly care about him then maybe it would be best if you let him be...as in letting him continue to go out with that other girl. So that way if they end up breaking up, you two might just have a chance to go out with one another, it's all about being respectful and if you treat him and his girlfriend with respect you will get it in return...and who knows, you might end up with him if that other girl truly isnt "the one".
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reader, laxamillionoflove +, writes (1 July 2009):
 just tell him but dont expect him 2 jump in 2 your arms and admit his love for you but theres no harm in letting him know
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reader, gingergirl +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Hi, I ahve a similar problem myself...Its hard to sit there and watch your crush being happy with someone else, ut I think that you shouldn't say anything because you might risk your friendship with Ed.Good luck with whatever you choose to do XXX
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