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writes: I was with my boyfriend James on and off for about 2 years- the last time we decided to get back together I was really happy, but then he broke it off as he liked someone else. He now wants me back but I'm seeing Will now and I really like him. The problem is I still love James and even if I cut off all contact with him. He's all I think about it. I've never met anyone who's made me as happy as James did, even though I don't really trust him now, although to be fair, I'm no angel. I think things could be really good with Will but I just don't know now- half of me wants to tell James to go to hell, the other half wants to grab him and never let go. What do I do?!!
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reader, Helen05 +, writes (2 August 2005):
It seems that james picks you up and puts you down when he feels like it. He thinks he will always take him back. If james truly loves you like you love him he would not play these games with you. My advice is not to give james what he wants, break all contact with him and give will a try. If you still have feelings for james start a relationship on your terms, not his and see how you get on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2005): A tough decision. I would suggest you tell James "to hit the road" and stick with Will. James has already hurt you-he left you once for another woman. Who says he won't do it again? He's not the most trustworthy, dependable sort of guy is he and he really did disrespect you by doing that. Seriously, ask yourself-is James to be ever trusted again? Has he or will he be able to prove himself to you as a honest fellow with integrity? If not, James may not be worth the heartaches & headaches he could cause you, in the future. Is Will a nice, solid guy that you can trust? What you really need to do is figure out how you really feel about Will and figure out what kind of relationship you could build with him. Put your energy into developing your relationship with Will and try hard to forget James. Inevitably..you will make the best decision but make it based on what you want, but most importantly base it on
good old common sense and maturity.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (2 August 2005):
what you have to ask yourself is if you would really be happier with 'James' the chances aere he will not have changed his ways and will continue to behave in the way which he behaved in in the past and you would never be able to trust him.
If I were you, I would give 'Will' a chance, however, if you do not care for will it isnt fair to string him along.
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