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writes:I'm 23 year old and i managed to get my self married and its been 4 years. i have a little two year old girl, my wife was divorced when i met her and has 4 children of her own. she is also mania-co depressive so its very hard emotionally. i know i love her but i don't feel in love. 7 months ago my 15 year old sister in law told me how much she loved me. ever since, we fell passionately in love but in secret. we have slept together many times and have never made love. Every time I see her my heart pounds. i have never seen anything more beautiful, and she feels the same. i even tried to end the relationship to protect her, but seeing her suffer always brings me back to square one. And she just can't let got. i feel so lost i have to chose. but who do i chose and for what reason? i feel dirty and evil. if an experienced person can help me, please do so without judging too harshly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): Buddy !
You are in big trouble...
1. sex with a 15 year old is statutory rape in most places, no matter how much u love each other.
2.Secondly If your marriage is bad first try and fix that. Speaking to your wife would be a good first step. And try and work out how you guys can fix it together, If you have a good friend or maybe a older sibling..talk to them about your feelings.
3. Even if your marriage is beyond repair, remember that you are a father, and you have a responsibility towards your daughter. Face up to that, and it's gonna be a lot easier living with yourself.
Goodluck !
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm really touched my the few answers you have all given me. i think you are all right in saying i need to stop the relationship with my sister in law. ps, she not my wifes sister but my brothers girl friends sister. my brother and he's girlfriend knows about it. i had asked my self the same question. what can i possibly have in common with her? but believe me, its nothing sexual. to be honest i got married at 19 and consider my self a mature person, but i still feel like an adolescent and all these responsibilities seem to be draining me. I'm going the see a phycologist next week to try and understand why i got myself into this situation. i wish i had some friends like you guys. i would have reacted immediately. thank you all
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reader, ctds001  +, writes (16 June 2010):
Hey Honey
I think you need to deal with your marriage and as hard as it maybe stop the emotional affair with your sister in law.
1) Your sister in law is 15 and will grow out of this infatuation with you.
2) Once your in laws find out about your affair, it will make all your lives very difficult. They will be most upset that you have embarked on a relationship which is bound to tear their family apart.
3) Your wife needs specialist help, she has a lot on her plate and if your affair gets out how will she cope with the children and her depression.
4) When you got married you choose to take on your wife, her children and her depression issues. She is your responsibilty and you need to stand by her.
5) You CAN NOT leave your wife for her 15 year old sister, think about how your friends and family will react to you two? I england this type of relationship is not acceptable. Your sister in law is too young and should never have been an option for you.
6) If your marriage is truly over then finish it, but remember your daughter will be needing your time and financial support.
Good luck - keep us updated.
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reader, lsickle  +, writes (16 June 2010):
first i dont know where u live but in the states there is a saying 15 wll get u twenty...(if u dont know this saying means messing with a 15 year old will get ya twenty years in the state penn) im sorry but im very civil and very respectful usually. How can u say with a straight face that u love this girl and i do mean girl. What can u possibly have in common with this little girl. What is she a sophmore...in high school. Think for a second not with what is dangling between your legs either. What possible life can u have with this girl. I mean if your unhappy in your marriage own up to it. Dont sleep with her underage sister. This screams absolute misery with your wife. No offense but shes fifteen u tell her go away. Teenagers get crushes left and right. You cant really be serious about throwing your life away and destroying hers. Cold hard fact is by stringing it along like this you are making it worse by the second. Just because the wedding tackle is getting a little thrill thinkin about this girl doesnt mean u act on it. MAN UP and do the RIGHT thing save the embarresment for your daughter. She comes first. Honestly if u need to get your rocks off this bad the oldest profession in the world can help ya go down to where the prostitutes are at and pay twenty bucks for a bj...JESUS our savior CHRIST...you got some soul searching to do. Ill tell u this if that was my daughter your ass would be arrested on saturatory rape. Bottom line u have FU?=ED UP. FIX THIS ASAP.
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