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writes:ok, well I am in a somewhat serious relationship for about 12mos. I really care about him but I dont feel completely happy. and for some reason i'm falling in love with a man that already has a partner also. what is wrong with me? what do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): Could be you are getting bored. Has the relationship fallen into routine? At some points the relationship can seem dull, then the next moment its exciting again. See this through is my advice, until you have figured out why you are not completely happy. That said you need also be realistic. The "in love" feeling and pink clouds and bubbly happiness is said to not last more than in general 6 months. After that, if you dont have solid foundations, things get rocky and the sparkle is gone and all that is left is the day to day basics. Im not saying you arent aware of this, but it might be what is happening. At least, if you are unsure, try to nurture your love for him and bring the happiness back in.
Also look at your life, maybe there is something outside of the relationship that is keeping you from being happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhen I wasnt dating I just fantasized in having him. Now that he is my partner, I just don't feel happy anymore. I feel so bad because he is a great guy and my family loves him. but I just dont know anymore.
Thank you very much for the advise.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 November 2009):
Ask yourself why you're not completely happy. What is missing from your relationship? Do you feel loved by your boyfriend or is there more that he could do? If you can answer these questions, then you can save the relationship because you'll be able to fix it properly. If you can't, then it may be that the relationship has run its course.
As for the guy who has a partner, leave him be, no matter what. You don't want to end up really hurt.
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