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writes:Hi there,I have a difficult decision to make and would value anyone's advice. I seem to sway about what to do!I have worked for chartered accountants for the past year, filled with pr_cks - particularly the firm's partners, who make all the ruthless decisions, like restructuring my department. Yesterday, I was told that out of the three in my department, they've chosen to make me redundant. Of the three of us, who are all hard workers, I have the largest skillset (due to my more advanced role) and I'm the ONLY one of the three with qualifications. However, I was told it came down to experience and so I was the first in, first out.In reality, their profits aren't even down at all. It's a redundancy that didn't need to happen. If they wanted to save my job, many of the staff, who don't want to see me go, would've been happy to pitch in and train me up on new processes to take more work off them. I've had one of my teams do that very exact thing! I've had that team go to the partners and ask them to keep me on, explaining they need me. A lot of good that did!It's basically the only redundancy I know of in this recession that didn't need to happen. And I am the only one in the firm of 70 who it affects. The process has also been drawn out over months and months and the three of us have been getting by on an hour's sleep a night. It's been incredibly stressful.They want me to stay on until 21 December and then my four week redundancy pay will cover the Christmas period. Considering I was expecting they'd offer the bare minimum, I actually thanked them for the generous offer. Sometimes you say the most stupid things in the heat of the moment!I've been up the entire night mulling over what to do. They make it sound attractive saying they'll pay me for the holidays, but in reality, it means they can suck me dry for everything I know. I'm also essentially helping them during their toughest, most stressful time of the year with a high workload. Then in the new year, it's adios!I absolutely HATE my job and the only reason to stay is for the money.. even though it's terrible money at that - they're accountants afterall! My partner is also being made redundant at end of year.. and we have plans for our future i.e. house, children and so it's sad to think we'll have to delay all that now.Money is the only reason I would stay.. but then it only comes down to two more months pay. And I would take great pleasure in knowing that they will struggle during that time without me and if I leave now, I can avoid having to pass on all those skills I brought to the job, which however you look at it, just feels degrading! I feel like, aside from two months of my stingy salary, I'd be doing THEM a favour, even though, when I was made redundant yesterday, they made it sound as though they were helping ME out.I keep swaying between one and the other. If I leave, I can focus on my freelance writing and an opportunity may come up, which wouldn't have ordinarily if I was stuck in that deadend job, counting down the minutes to the end of each day, as I have for the past year.Money - verses - some time out for me and knowing I'm inconveniencing them! Showing them the same courtesy they've shown me!What are your thoughts? Thanks so much for reading.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2012): Hi there,
Thanks so much for your wonderful advice.
I have this weekend to think it over. Your suggestions have helped hugely. It's great to consider the pros & cons of both options, which you've made me aware of. I'll hopefully have made my decision by tomorrow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2012): Never think the company will miss you, that they need you. They don't. Ever. Your household seems on the verge of loosing all income and you have to choice of making that happen NOW or at least keep some income for a while.Keep the income but go job hunting straight away, do your remaining work decently but also make it clear when you make the deal that you expect very generous time off to attend job interviews.Be nice, never EVER burn bridges, you never know who knows who at your new job but both you and the company know that the relationship is over so you can open about using work resources to find a new job in this kind of situation, answer recruiter calls during office hours. Still do your job but just enough to not get booted out any sooner or leave a negative memory of yourself.Getting fired, hurts. But you can't get even with them, so don't even bother. Don't cut of your nose to spite your face.If you left today, on the spot. They would be happy, they already want you gone, the delay is for your benefit, not theirs.Yes, I know, harsh, painful and embarrassing. Nobody ever said getting the can is easy but think of your own best interest first, not some petty idea of vengeance the other side won't even notice.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 October 2012):
 I am afraid you are the only one who can really know it's best .
For myself, I'd have no hesitations, I'd leave now. It's just two months salary, I hate the job, I am resentful and stressed out so I would not be doing the job at my best anyway,I could use the rest , and anyway, since we are going to be parting ways for good, might as well doing it now, I am not going to sell myself for a dish of lentils like that guy in the Bible.
But... it all depends how much the money issue weights for you. It's easy to be causal with other people's money . You haven't a new job lined up yet, your bf is going to be laid off too, I don't know if you have savings and how much, plus Xmas is actually coming up and you may also need the extra money in that expensive time of the year.
So, do your calculations and decide if the monetary compensation is sufficient to pay for two more months of munching your own liver. Only you will know.
Anyway, I'd let the money issue be the only meter for evaluation, not the " revenge " angle. I understand that now you like the idea of inconveniencing them, but, really, it would not amount to much . You are not going to make them go bankrupt, you are not going to make them loss plenty of business, you are not going to drastically change their office policy or working hours. all that could happen is that some will say " F.. that bitch " and forget about it a minute later.
the best revenge, then, is living well, try to not work yourself up in a lather about this ,... it's not like you loved the ambience,the bosses or the job ,is it ?... just chalk it up to work experience, that you can add to your resume'... and look forward to new and better employement, wheter it's right now, or in a couple of months if you decide to stiff upper lip.
Good luck and really, don't take it so hard, since, seeing how it was a poorly paid job, that you don't enjoy anyway... maybe they have done you a big favour, they have given you that push , without which you could have stayed trapped there, bored and frustrated, for years and years to come..
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