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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am 4 months pregnant, and have been with my boyfriend/fiance for almost a year now. We get into these horrible arguments and will call me some really hurtful names, names that he knows kills me inside. I tell him how I feel and how depressed I am and he goes on about how it is always about me. I just want him to comfort me and lift me up again. He has a really bad temper and he knows it, it is never taken out on me physically, I just feel like I am being selfish, am I?I live states away from my family, have no job and don't know what to do. Do I stay and hope that this will work its way out or do I try and find a way to move? I never wanted to get pregnant before I was married and feel trapped.
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reader, slightlyconfusedhusband +, writes (26 September 2010):
All relationships, especially marriage, require a lot of work from both parties involved. Try sitting down and talking to him. Keep the conversation neutral, try not to cry and definitely don't get aggressive. Tell him what you need and ask him what it is that he needs. Communication is key here. If that does not work then go to a counselor and try to get him to go along. Keep in mind that your perspective and emotions will be skewed right now due your hormones. If he seems genuinely interested in trying to work things out then stay and try to do so. If he seems less that cooperative then tell him that you are pregnant and cannot handle the stress of living with him right now and go back home to your parents if you can. If you are sure you still want to try things out just make sure that he knows you are doing this for the good of the baby. If you don't want to work things out then simply leave. If he does not want to help at all and refuses your every attempt to fix this outright, then leave him.Above all remember that your emotions are going crazy right now and sorry to say but you might be driving him nuts. I have gone thru this three times and I have to say it was pretty rough. Make sure you remind him that you are hormonal right now, this is something he also needs to understand.
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