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*anerz123
writes:People think I'm a how because of the way I dress. I am a beautiful blonde with great legs and nice natural breasts. I like to show it off through what I wear. Guys are always getting pissed off at me for "leading them on." tgey know im un a relationship! what should I do? Also is it bad that I I enjoy having sex almost every day?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): you sound a bit of a slut, save it for your bf? it would be fine if you were single...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010): It seems that you like the attention drawn to you because you must dress skimpy to show off your body. My friend likes to dress this way, miniskirts and daisy dukes, and loves the attention. It depends on how act also. Are you purposely bending over and showing off your assets or not. That is what makes the difference.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 June 2010):
 I think it may be more a problem of attitude and non-verbal language than of slutty dressing, most young women wear skimpy clothing nowadays.
I have a friend who has exactly your same problem, she always get accused of leading men on- and she does not even dress provocatively, she is more of a jeans and T-shirt type. BUT, she does not understand physical boundaries very well. She is very friendly, a bit too friendly, with guys whom she has just mest. She is very touchy-feely , she always greets everybody,even semi-strangers ,with hugs and kisses. She stands very close to people when talking to them . This type of things.
I don't think she does this on purpose to act seductive, she just does not realize there is a "grammar " for non verbal interaction so she sends the wronng signals.
Of course I don't know you and I have no idea if this could be your case too. But I am in Italy, it's summer, and all around me I see tons girls with not enough fabric on them to dress up a doll,- men got used to that by now, so I suppose it must be something more than just the dress.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (27 June 2010):
 You should be able to wear what you want. Sadly we don't live in a world where we are not judged on physical appearance. Therefore if you are walking around a shopping mall wearing next to nothing then you can expect to be looked at and judged (especially by other women!) - it maybe wrong, but it happens. If you don't mind the attention then wear whatever you want, but if you hate the looks and comments then it maybe time for a wardrobe makeover. Dressing sexy doesn't mean wearing low cut tops and mini-skirts always. You can wear 'more' clothing that suits your body shape that are attractive and classy, without projecting a message of 'look at me'.
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reader, Wise Woman of the Forest +, writes (27 June 2010):
 Some men consider it "coming on to them" for adding an extra kiss to the end of a text. There's nothing wrong with showing off a bit of leg or breast- chickens do it all the time (sorry couldn't resist).Perhaps only showing off one thing at a time would be the answer. I tend to either have breast showing or leg. As for men, they can be spiteful and misinterperet your intentions, just ignore them. And on the sex front, it's perfectly fine to enjoy it, especially if you are in a relationship. (:
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 June 2010):
 To enjoy sex is not bad. And you must live in a bad area and meet the worst kind of men if they are the types who think the way a woman dress means she will sleep with them or not.I got that comment thrown after me once, and I was wearing nothing too revealing at all. It's just some men are stupid. Don't let it affect you. But, if you are living in this type of area with a lot of men like this, you might want to consider wearing things that hide you more, just to stop the harassment you are being put through. I don't think you dress like a slut. You are probably just gorgeous and the men are upset they can't have some of it, so they resort to degrading you instead, thinking that will make them look less of a fool.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2010): No it's not bad that you enjoy sex every day, YES it's wrong to 'lead people on' when you're in a relationship. Having self confidence is a good quality, you sound overly confident, which isn't always a good quality, neither is it respectable, and yes you sound like you're projecting this image of a slut.
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reader, yag +, writes (26 June 2010):
if you have it flaunt it. if your proud of what you haqve why cover it up?if men think you are leading them on, try not to be as friendly. if you are naturally friendly like me, then men can take your friendliness as being a way of flirting. if they think you are you really should just say. or make it clear that you havea partner.if you are in a relationship then there is nothing wrong with having sex everyday, many people do it. its natural to enjoy sex and also brings you and your partner and a great source of excercise.
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