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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Well, I don´t know what is this that I feel. I think and feel is love but hopeless one.I need your help.A year and a half ago, delivering phones I met some military guys and one of the was the one who caught my attention.I liked him since I saw him, like a lightning struck me or something. Well, everything was cool until I had to meet him a week later when I just felt like something inside of me changed. When he said he was leaving that Thursday I felt heartbreak.He left, but I couldn´t stopped thinking about him. So, I contacted him a month after and he seemed to remembered me. I said if we could stay in touch and he said nothing, but I emailed him and he always replied.I realized as friends. Somewhat I still feel the same as when I met him. We have kept in touch since and he seems to have grown a bit fonder to me as he now says he enjoys our friendship and communications and that is great I keep in touch with him. He had changed base of station, got deployed and still in contact. Well, he even contacts me now and then.But I love him. Although, he doesn´t feel the same I can´t stop feeling bad b/c I can´t get over him and move on. I go out and date, but no success. What can I do to stop thinking about him?
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reader, Serenity1  +, writes (10 October 2008):
 If your feelings are that strong then you should not give up on him. You never know he could be your soul mate. I've been experiencing the same thing with my guy friend, and when things don't turn as I think they should or he doesn't say what I think he should I automatically think I may be wasting my time or might need to get rid of him. But everytime I think of moving on I get a real strong feeling of pain in my heart like I can't live without him or something (which I know is untrue). I think it's just the fact that as humans we're use to getting what we want and when we don't we can some times be dramatic.
But don't give up on him if he's been deployed that's just like when a guy goes to prison, they tend to consider whoever kept in touch with them while they were gone really cares for them. When others probably occassionally ask about them but you know the saying "out of sight out of mind"
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): Either figure a way to meet him for drinks or go see him, ask him out, plan a trip to meet even if its a year off. or give up. Whats the point if there is never any change.
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