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writes:4 Days Into Our R-Ship and i dont know what 2 buy her for v-dayi'm 24 i'm dateing a 16 year old girl that goes to collage (i know 16 is young but who cares in the united kingdom u can sleep with a 16 year old girl)i really like her so much. shes nice good looking and well up 4 me.6-7 hrs after us kissing which started our r-ship she told me she loves me and tomoz when i pick her up 2 take her to collage (not school) shes gonna say she loves me and i know i'm gonna say it back because i think i love her 2. but this love doesn't feel nothing like my first love is that normal?i asked her to come and stay over at my house v-day so we can like spend a night together no sex or naughty business.she told me she doesn't know yet. but she always says dirty things 2 me like tonight she told me she was in bed wearing her underwear.and i kind of think why say your wearing your underwear if she doesn't want anything to happen. i dont want to hurry this girl and i'm willing to wait because she's cute. she's not a virgin so i dont see the problem.i live about 10 miles away from this girl so seeing her is hard work. but i drive.she just wants a weekend r-ship but i dunno if i can handle just seeing her on the weekends. thats why she asked me to go tomoz. but the question is do i really love her like i did my ex?i really like her will it work us being so far apart?what do i buy her for v-day she says she knows what what shes buying me. i dunno what 2 buy her any tips will be great
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reader, mum2be +, writes (22 February 2007):
You can't say i love you just because you miss saying it! If you mean it, then good on you, and i hope it works out.
I am still concerned though, about the way you met. Do you think the courtcase could bring you apart in future realtionships? I hope it works out for you!
all the best
xxx
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reader, tinklinglaughter  +, writes (7 February 2007):
 OK..the last line of your response says it all. It says that you're with this girl coz you miss being with your ex. In other words, you're on the rebound. Please be careful, and don't hurt anyone's feelings. Don't tell her you love her just coz you miss saying it to your ex. Say it when you really mean it, when you believe that you genuinely do love this girl. Take care...
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reader, I Waited For The One +, writes (7 February 2007):
I Waited For The One is verified as being by the original poster of the question i'm not with this girl for sex.
i'm well over my ex.
how long did i know her? .... we kind of met sunday so no time at all.
i did buy her a teddy with a pink bow. that says " love u " in a heart
and i bought her a card that says " 2 my girlfriend " and says i love u all over it. but its pink thats the only reason i picked it up.
i know i souldn't compare her 2 my first love and i'm not gonna. i was with my ex 15 months i didn't say i love her till a month after us dateing. yes i do think this girl is rushing things just a little bit but i'm a nice guy if she says shes loves me i gonna say it back because i miss tellin my ex i love her and stuff.
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reader, mum2be +, writes (7 February 2007):
Woa! Do you really love her, or is this infatuation? How well did you knwo eachother before you started dating?I think you should stop comparing her to your ex... they are two different people and you are ceratin to love them in different ways!!!Are you sure you are not just dating this girl for sex? She does seem young for your age...And yes, i know it's legal to have sex when your 16, but you need to work out whether it is something you can handle the consequences of!!!A long distance relationship can work, so don't worry about that...If you both want to be together, you will be fine i am sure.i hope things are OKxxx
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reader, tinklinglaughter +, writes (7 February 2007):
Hi..You should know that first loves are almost always different and while it is possible that you may feel that way about someone else again, there is also a possibility that you won't. Besides, you haven't known this 16-year old too long, so it's safe to say you wouldn't know if you love her yet or if you will love her the way you loved your ex. Give it some more time..let the relationship build and grow a little and you will know how you feel about her more clearly. As for being far apart, since you do drive, the 10 miles may not seem like a lot if you're willing to put in the effort, of course. I agree with Eve about the gift, a soft toy like a teddy bear or something might be appropriate and she'd appreciate it for sure.
By the way, your last couple of posts indicated you still weren't over your ex. So I really hope you're not with this girl for the wrong reasons, and by that I mean I hope it's not like a rebound thing for you or somethign to get back at your ex with. I hope things work out for you and everyone around you.
Take care..
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reader, AskEve +, writes (7 February 2007):
 4 days into the relationship and you already think you love her? That's a bit quick is it not? I don't know how long you were with your ex but you hardly know this girl, you think she's cute, that's all.
Get to know her much better first then a few months down the line analyse your feelings again for her. She is still very young so I agree not to sleep with her just yet. She's just teasing you when she talks to you on the phone, rise above it and don't read too much into it.
10 miles isn't that far apart, especially as you drive. I would buy her a small cuddly toy with "you're cute" or something similar on the front and a nice card. She'll appreciate that as much as anything else and you have only been seeing her a very short time.
Good luck with your relationship and don't worry, just talk and get to know one another better.
Eve
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