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writes: ive known my crush for a good 4 years..within these 4 years our families have gotten really close. on the weekends i hang out with him and his friends and we all have a lot of fun at parties. his friends love me and they often call me from his phone to hang out. At times i feel a really close connection with him. we both care about each other..and he is like an older brother/ security guard to me.. but i think he likes us better off as friends. My friend talked with him and he told her that he loves me and that we are best friends. i feel like i can tell him anything, but it is hard for me to admit to him that i like him. He told him mom that he doesnt really want a relationship and that he just wants to have fun. Everyone feels this way at one point in their lives.. i know i have. but there could always be that one person that cud come around to change his mind...i wish it could be me. My outlook on my situation is "why bother going through the process of meeting new people when i could just date my best freind" i know there are some complications to this. Do you have any advice for me? Because i could use any advice or an input.
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reader, geogurl  +, writes (7 February 2007):
 Hi,
In a way i can see of lot of what i've been through in your problem. I too have a best friend who i've know for about four years. My friends would always tease us saying that he fancied me and that we make a good couple and everything. Then 3 years into our friendship i decided to take the plunge and risk everything. This was the person who was there for me when my other best friend died, who'd always been there when i was upset or just to have a laugh.
I decided that it was worth the chance. So one day i text him tellin him how i felt about him. And he soon replied with the same answer. So we're now a couple.Why not take the plunge, if you have strong feelings for him and he's worth it then go for it. The worst he can say is no or not right now i'm not ready for a relationship. Then you can move on. Otherwise if someone else gets there before you, you'll always have that feeling of what could have been.
Hope this is of some help. If you need anymore advice then just send me an emial.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (7 February 2007):
 Right now he doesn't want to date. You could hang around and wait until he does want to date but you're so young and it seems silly to waste your time. Also, just a word of warning. I know you're going to read this and say "Well it wouldn't happen to us, we're too close" but sometimes when you get with a friend and end up breaking up it completely wrecks your friendship, however hard you try to keep it together for each other. I say give this boy his time and space and go off and have some fun yourself. If it's meant to be you'll find your way back to each other!!
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