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writes:the problem i have is my boyfreinds ex!! he has a little girl with her and has her on a weekend but i am never allowed when he goes to pick her up or drop her off he says he doesnt want anything to kick off otherwise she will stop him seeing the little one.i dont beleive that cause she needs him so she can work. who else would do it she doesnt have family close by. she stills goes to my boyfreinds mums house and she takes her shopping and am not allowed down there when the ex is. wot do i do i have told my partner that this upsetts me and he just does nothing to sort it out. do i let the ex win or do i call it a day. please help no1 to turn to. Reply to this Question
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reader, huneygyrl  +, writes (5 January 2009):
 Maybe this is what the ex suggested for the childs sake. Situations like this complicates the childs thinking. This is one of the reasons why a lot of people don't want to date people with kids, the ex factor.
Maybe its better to just be friends.
The most important person out of this situation is the child. This have nothing to do with you.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (5 January 2009):
 Honey,
You sound like you dont trust him, (and I totally understand that), but you will drive him away if you dont stop trying to force yourself into situations, that your partner is obviously trying to avoid.
I know its hard on you, but just let nature take its course. When you have been together a bit longer, he may start to want you there more. I have always found that if you try and force a man to do something it always backfires. Try using reverse Psychology on him, like you do children. Go and do something else when he picks the child up, so your not sitting their waiting and wondering.
Men are usually quite weak when it comes to exes and their demands, so dont think for one minute he is the odd one.
Happy New Year, I hope it all works out. XX
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