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writes:Hi, I'm not sure what to do. Last week my b/f and I split after a year because the distance was too much. However I've been regretting it ever since but we both came to this decision for a reason. If I choose to fight for it then I know its going to be even harder than it already has been and I feel like in the end we'll still come to the same conclusion. However I do love him and can't accept that we'll never be together. I'm completely 50/50 about this and can't decide! I know its down to me but I need other peoples opinions on what i should do. Fight for a lost cause or try and forget the man i love?? Please help!
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reader, bumbelina +, writes (21 June 2007):
There is only so much time that you can spend fighting for it. Sometimes you get to a point where you still love each other, but you don't know how much longer you can go without things changing in one way or another. to be honest I think that the fact you are even asking if you should fight means that you have had enough and that it might be time to move on.
Good luck with whatever you choose to do - it's not easy either way xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): Speaking as somone who is currently in a long distance relationship i know it isn't easy, but if you want it bad enough you make it work. I do understand that both of you are still fairly young and it may be a financial strain to travel frequently.
I do know there is nothing like being with that person in person but you work with what you got
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): again thanks for all the replies to my question, dont know if anyone else will read it but just thought i'd say that they're all valid points. We talked about moving to be together for a while but in the end he couldn't bring himself to leave and i cant go out there just now. And again there is a lot of I's but he did try a bit. Eventually he did say that he knew it wasn't possible and never said anything because he didn't want to break my heart. I know he loves me but I'm just angry we never got a chance to be together!
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (20 June 2007):
What I see going on with your relationship is a lot of I's,I's,I;s. Don't see any We's, We's, We;s on his part. No relationship is going to work, if you are together, or apart, with out those We's, We's, We's of cmmitment by the both of you.
If I were to write a book, it's title would be, 'How To Make Love To A Ghost'.And you would be that inspiration for the book. What I,m saying is, It takes live bodies to have relationships. And cold, ghostly departed bf or gf just leave your arm's empty, Guest, You get my point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): thanks for the replies to the question and i do want to fight but i have been for a year and I'm not sure what else to do. That's what i mean about being 50/50 - I want to fight for him but i know it'll be hopeless!
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reader, kellyO +, writes (20 June 2007):
 Hi dear,
It is never easy with long distance, but it can work and has been know to. If i was in your position and i really loved himi would fight to make it work.
Goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): Can one of you relocate? Have you discussed this option with him?
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reader, Tania95  +, writes (20 June 2007):
If u love him u should fight 4 him
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