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writes:I've been apart from my ex 3 months now, he's tried so hard to make it up 2 me and I'm very very confused, he stole from me which I still can't get my head round but I love this guy to pieces, I wanted to marry this guy and start a family. I was so happy with him and I hurt so much when where apart. We still keep in touch over the phone and I've met up with him a couple of times, but my family doesn't know and I hate lying and keeping this from them but they would be very disappointed in me if they found out and would go to extreme lengths to keep us apart. My ex had a drinking problem at the time which drove him to do this and I hate him for it, he is now seeking help and really regrets what he has done but it would take a lot of time to ever trust him again. I feel like I have to choose between my family and the love of my life which hurts me so much. I cry myself to sleep every nite plz help.x
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reader, wickyricky +, writes (11 November 2008):
hey you hope you keppin ok ..well its hard choise to make family of partner well in the situation ur in personaly i wud go back with him i no its easy to say this becauce im not in your shoes but your family love you no matter what you do maybe they dont like your choice but they will have to like it give him a secound chance just take things slowly build up the trust i hope things work out for u i really do let me know what happens keepin touch
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reader, randa +, writes (11 November 2008):
randa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe stole my jewellery, I think he thought it meant nothing to me as I never wore it but a lot of it was past down from my nana and parents and was quite valuable and meant loads to me. Deep down I think it's wrong what I'm doing, but I just can't help myself wanting to see and speak to him, I suppose he doesn't help as he hasn't left me alone since this happened eg, phoning me apologising, I am usually a very strong person and deep down I think I'm better off without him, but my heart just won't let go. I have never felt like this before. If it wasn't for my parents, I would still be with him now. I know they want the best for me. My parents live 80 miles away but are a big part of my life.
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (11 November 2008):
 Well you can learn from your own mistakes I guess. You can try dating him again if you think he is the one for you, just dont let him anywhere near your parents house in case he will want to steal something from there! My exes sisters bf stole things from my exes house, its not a pleasant situation to get into!
Your family probably wont be happy about you getting back together with him but it is your life, your decisions but do try to listen to what your family has got to say, they see it all from a different angle than you do, they have more more experience, they are wiser and they only wish you well.
Good luck
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (11 November 2008):
 Sounds complicated. If he has admitted that he stole and is making amends and dealing with his issues, I don't see why you shouldn't give him another chance.
Things will be a bit uncomfortable for a while but if you both love each other, time heals.
I also wonder how serious a matter the stealing was. I guess this might be an issue since you didn't say if it was a major theft or something minor.
Once a person betrays your trust it is hard to trust them again, but everyone deserves a second chance. If he does this again, then that's that, you know the sort of person he is. But if he is really working on his issues and making it up to you, give him one more chance, but just one.
Good luck!
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