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writes: I really need help. There is this boy. I really like him but he asked me to have sex with him and I said yes. But I found out the same night he was planning on having sex with another girl as well. Then when I asked him he says it is not true. People keep telling me that it is true. I don't know whether to still have sex with him or whether it is true about the other girl. He just wont tell me. Help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2005): In case you didn't see all the other no'sthe answer to your question is a simple NO
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reader, sammi +, writes (25 March 2005):
No, don't let him take advantage of you. Sex is a special thing between a boy and a girl. First of all, if he can't answer your question then there is something fishy going on. Trust your instincts. Personally, I would save the sex thing for someone who deserves you. No woman deserves that. But if you want this guy, give him a ultimatum: either he is straight with you or you're going to walk!
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reader, Martin +, writes (25 March 2005):
Dont let him see the back of you for dust, find someone who will see sex as something special, a total commitment that two people make and should not be taken lighty.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (23 March 2005):
 The short answer is No. No, no, NO. Don't.You're talking about the most intimate act that two people can have together, and this boy won't even admit to whether he's planning on having sex with someone else, too? He sounds like a weaselly little creep and believe me, hon, you could do better than to have sex with a creep. Even if you think you like him now, from where I sit, he's still a creep.By the way, you have to ask yourself an important question before you commit yourself to having sex with anyone: "What do I get out of this?"I get the distinct impression that you're pretty new to sex and very young, so I can tell you a few things that you probably WON'T get from this experience: 1. an orgasm, and 2. a boyfriend.Your first sexual experience - particularly if it's under these circumstances - is likely to be uncomfortable at best. You put yourself at risk of a sexually-transmitted infection (condoms slip off and/or break) and of course, pregnancy. There's also the possibility that the weaselly little creep who won't tell you if he's sleeping with someone else will start to big-note his sexual prowess to his mates. Eventually word leaks out to all of his friends and all of yours about how easy it was to get you into bed. This is not a good thing!This also won't net you a boyfriend. It may get you some brief male attention, but only so that he can have sex with you whenever he wants. There's not likely to be a lot of care or love in the equation, and you deserve love as much as anyone!So I say again, No. Don't do it. Save the sex for someone who's really special to you, who cares only for you and is someone you trust.Anything less and you're cheating yourself out of a wonderful experience.Take care!
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