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writes: Hi all! My boyfriend is leaving to another country for 10 days this Friday and I'm fine with it, I want him to enjoy himself. However one thing slightly irks me..His mom really doesn't like me a lot, calling me ugly and little nasty things throughout our relationship (1+ year). But she's learned to somewhat put up with me. She made a comment to him about her rich friends back home with beautiful daughters that she could introduce to him, and since he's staying with his mom, I've got this constant thought at the back of my head that his mom will set him up with a rich, Argentinian girl (I'm European-American) and that he'll cheat on me...I know this is ludicrous, because i trust him and he has never cheated and he loves me...He told me that the comments his mom made are jokes, but how many jokes are too many? Do I have reason to worry about his mother?Thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (17 December 2010):
 Well if he has gone to Argentina then it is not really strange to not take a phone, it is so expensive to use the internet or make calls, and he is only gone for 10 days so it is not really like he is gone for ages.
Seen as it is Christmas and the new year coming up, hopefully he might try and contact you - chances are there will be internet cafe's down there or if, as you say, his family are fairly rich or spend time with rich friends in Argentina then there will be a computer or a phone he can use when he gets there.
If he makes no attempts at contacting you for the 10 days and has access to a computer or phone while he is there then I would find that odd, but its not particularly strange for him to not take any of his own equipment with him - I know I would not bother taking anything with me if I was going somewhere like that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you kc100! I'm a lot calmer now.
The only problem is that he doesn't have a phone with him (expensive) or any other ways of contacting me. Does this seem strange to you that he didn't bother bringing his laptop or phone?
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (16 December 2010):
Well you have to remember - your boyfriend is his own person and cannot be forced into cheating by his mother!
As long as you know that he loves you and you trust him, then there is nothing to worry about. Because all these comments will just wash over him, he obviously wont just do as she says purely because thats his mum - he has a brain of his own and if he is happy with you then he wont listen to his mum and he wont cheat.
If her comments really upset you so much I suggest you explain to your boyfriend how hurtful they are and that you dont feel like they are jokes. Ask him to speak to his mum about it and try and get her to cut it out.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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