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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:basically there is this guy that i've been interested in for about a month. and well, my problem is: i don't know if the things he does is just of pure kindness as a friend or not! (like... does he only think of me as a friend or is there a chance he might like me?)making things short, basically he:-always talks to me freely. (and when all the other guys are with us too he doesn’t care if I hear about his thoughts about the girls he took on dates and etc)-almost always texts me to see where in campus i’m gonna eat lunch/dinner.-occasionally calls me to study with him at the library.-always smiles and winks at me every time he sees me.-hugs me occasionally.-loves picking on me.-bothered me a lot to know who I liked when I changed my facebook status to “it’s complicated” just as a joke. (both my roommate and I changed our status as a joke because we were both interested in someone…)-out of nowhere decided to take a picture kissing my cheek instead of taking a “normal” one. (I had asked him to take a pic with him for my cellphone to show when he calls/txts. ps: this is not something he usually does to me… unlike some of my other friends.)but at the same time he also says:-“why don’t I ever get sms from women?” after he got a msg from a friend and when I was just beside him and we do exchange msgs almost everyday. His excuse? “but u are different! u are from our group” (cause in our college campus there aren’t many ppl from our country so we tend to all hangout together a lot… ps: i’m the only girl.)-“we’ll call more people” just after we had talked about going to watch a movie and one of our friends joked around saying “oooh~ a date?”-“is your friend cute?” just after I mention a girl friend of mine.And yes, he likes partying, drinking and he usually does hook up with a bunch of girls when he goes out. but even with all these things, I still seem to like him. Oh... and he's 4 yrs older than me... just in case u wonder.So do I have any chance with him at all or am I just a good friend?
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reader, manperson101  +, writes (5 March 2010):
Haha wow this guy is a player! I think its fair to say he's a confident guy with a lot of personality. I've been in that position with girls, as the obsessor and as the obsessee, and, honestly, it can go either way. He may just feel completely comfortable around you and enjoy that he can do or say whatever he wants. Unfortunately, this may mean he thinks you're harmless and/or likes your attention i.e. you're on his hook. However, he may actually like you and be playing you hot and cold (which is working brilliantly, obviously).I'd say enjoy the ride, Its really intense being in that position and I still remember the first girl who did it to me.You're gonna have to see how it plays out. You may not want to hear this but there's nothing you can really do because if you back off you may just lose a friend or he may just reel you back in with false promises and kisses to get you back in his pocket (you'll fall even harder and faster after this). ... The best options:a) Make him jealous by talking about guys you like and kiss. See how he reacts and try and read him. If he loses control of you he may realise he wants you.b) Be headstrong; don't always be around and almost force him to do things with you like drag him out.c) Play his game of hot and cold. He may want a bit of drama and excitement and if you seem unstable and difficult to control he may want you.These are far from foolproof. Remember, guys play games as much as girls. Also once you start youwill probably get hooked as its is a lot of fun.I would say that before doing all this, honestly think1) are you equally attractive? (how can you make yourself look better)2) are you willing to be with a guy who plays games and to play them yourself?I will also warn you that if hes older and already doing this to you he's probably better at it and likely to win!Good luck and enjoy it!!
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