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writes:i think i have an anxiety problem, but im not sure how i can tell forsureI always expect the worse to happen and my stomach will feel like its in knots and my heart will beat faster if something doesnt seem right to me. Like if my bf dosent say a certain thing to me I get scared he is losing interest if things arent routine like. This isnt just with him (he dosent know by the way, noone does) this is with everything. Its effects my emotions as well as physical abilities, like I cant focus or do the things I love without worrying. Honestly I hate it and wish my life was carefree, but I think I have a problem. I wont wanna do anything at all until I find out everything is okay. I prolly sound crazy to all of you but I really need help. This has been going on for a good while now, does anyone know what might be wrong or is possibly having the same problem?please all help appreciated, thank you so muchxox Reply to this Question
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reader, lypiphera +, writes (9 June 2008):
 Yes, that is definatly anxiety. There are a few things you can do- there are medications you can talk to your doctor about that help calm you down. Sometimes thats best for awhile, till you can get a better handle on WHAT stresses you out, WHY it stresses you, and HOW you can get a handle on it. I had big problems with that too for awhile.
Another great thing i learned is to keep a diary/record of what stressed you out, why it stressed you, what you were thinking, and then remind yourself that there's no reason to worry. If your boyfriend is with you, it means that he chose you over all the other girls, that you are an amazing person to have such a great guy, and that he's human too and sometimes might be having a hard day, might be stressed about something in his life, and just because he may not be at his best it has nothing to do with you. Just think- are the feelings you are having because of him? Of course not! So, with him, just because he may seem distant, its not because of you. Just remember to communicate with him, and if something really does worry just ask him "hey, you seem a little distant, is everything ok?"
Also, be sure to talk to him/your family/maybe your school? about this anxiety- letting people in your life know whats up helps IMMENSELY because a) they dont think THEY are doing something wrong b) they can help you out when you're stressing. I learned that one the hard way- almost drove off my boyfriend because i was always freakin out but never told him i was having anxiety attacks, made my teachers mad because i was always very emotional, etc. Once i told people it helped SOO much. Also, if it gets bad, i would really recommend talking to your doctor. Not a forever thing, but just till you can figure out what triggers your anxiety attacks and make life a little easier.
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