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writes:Hey I have a question..Sooo I don't have a car right now, I need one tho to start college. And now, I'm single. I've been single for almost a year. Meaning no dates no sex no talkin on the phone no nothing. But my best friend has because she has a car. She can go places. And when I do go out with her no luck. But when she go riding around she find guys all the time. Which I don't mind because everyone she have someone. But I'm am a little fedup about being alone. Soo my other best friend came into town and she has a car also, and me and her went out ( not to clubs but like to applebees ect ) and some guys tried to get at me. Finally!!! And one nite all three of use went out and I got 2 numbers but the guy wanted to get a room the next day and I said I'm not that type of girl even tho I'm superrrrrr horny but nope ( signs ) sooo my bestfriend went back home and I'm still alone. But my bestfriend who stay in town with me has meet 2/3 more guys in one week. So I asked her to like hook me up with one of them but since she has no connection with them she don't want to give me the guys brother who she wasn't talking too. I know the sayings u should wait, blah blah blah ur prince chaming will come when u least expect it blah blah blah focuse on college blah blah blah, spare me the details lol. But I was a little upset, because I don't have a car so I can't go out on my own and maybe meet guys. And she's been having sex and things like that andi haven't been touched in almost a year. I asked her why won't she do it she said because she don't have anyone and me and that guy may hit it off -____- sooo what should I do? Do I have the rite to be mad at her for cock blocking me? Like I don't know, I feel like I can't get mad because she can meet a guy and I can't but what about me? I don't mind listening to all my friends guy problems but idk. I'm sorry if this was to long:)
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reader, Elydiese  +, writes (5 April 2011):
We who said you sounded jealous it was because thats how you came across in your post, people were giving you advice on different ways to meet people and not rely so much on friends i would say that from the reply you gave you still sound very immature and childish and will only listen to what you want to hear rather than take the good from what other people have said which is not harsh or untrue its an honest opinion of the way you come across in your post. I cannot help in any other way as i dont think theres anything nice i could say that you would probably take out of context
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone that answered my questionFor the ppl who says I'm jealous, umm that's not true I have no reason to be jealous of another female. I'm pretty and so is my friend. I said because we BOTH have hooked each other up with guys I didn't think she wouldn't do it again. And for your information I do work and if u could read I said that I'm about to start school. Don't get it twisted! Also, where I'm from you don't go walkin, the gym, ect to find a guy. Why? Because that's miles away lol. And I really don't want to depend on my friends, ohhh noooooo lol its just everything is spaced out. My bestfriend was the one who said she don't wanna hook me up with that guy because she's alone and if me and the brother hit it off she's gonna be mad. Plus she don't know the brother soooo how can she be looking out for me? Exactly!! And no I don't just want to get laid, I would have but not the next day. So no thank! But thanks for your comments the ones who wasn't rude or didn't try too :)
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (4 April 2011):
no you dont have a right to be mad at your friend she has a car because she went for lessons and took her test she done all that for her. You are acting very childish and jealous, you should get out and meet people dont just sit back and expect everything to fall into place for you. Do you work? go to college? go to the gym? all these are also good places to meet people but if i were you i'd change my attitude because i think people would be more interested in someone who didnt bitch about anything and everything and were a little more adult and mature
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reader, honestman  +, writes (4 April 2011):
You don't need a car to meet guys. You need to hang around places where there are the right kind of guys you are looking for. Perhaps some of them will even have a car, and the problem will be solved.
If I were you, I would not depend on your friend for getting you dates. You should get yourself your own dates. If you are, for example, in the gym, and you like a guy, talk with him, ask him questions, ask him for help. Then, ask his name, and if the conversation is right for you, ask his number. Actually guys DO feel flattered when girls ask their number. So go ahead and do it!
Also, try alternating between asking his phone, or not asking him, and see what gives you more success.
I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): Your friend is simply intimidated by your presence around men and sees you as a threat to her ego, so she does her best to prevent you from making any kind of move. These kinds of people are worthless to deal with in life. I admire your morals and you should stick around those who share the same so you develop more confidence within yourself and those boys with whom you wish to pursue.
Regards
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): Sorry if this is harsh but your sounding a bit childish right now. Its really not your friends job to hook you up or find you your prince charming. I would think she's a better friend for not wanting to hook you up with random guys who probably aren't worth the time, meaning she does have your best interests at heart.
Another thing, your post has a tone of envy to it. You brought up the fact that she has a car, gets guys more than you more times than I care to count. You need to show a bit more maturity about things honestly you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): No, you don't have a right to be angry with your friend. She hasn't done anything wrong and it was inappropriate of you to expect her to give you a man from the ones she's met (or any brothers) just because you haven't a car and the same means to meet them yourself (for now).
As frustrating as it may be, this is a temprary situation.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (4 April 2011):
I think you may be confused on what you actually want. You're jealous of your friend for getting laid and getting all this attention, yet when the opportunity presents itself to you, you back off? You said you got two guys' numbers in one night. What happened to the other guy that didn't ask you to get a room? And even though one of them wanted to score right away, isn't that your ultimate goal as well? Maybe if you really wanted companionship, you should have said "No, its too soon; but we should get to know each other first." Correct me if I'm wrong.
To be honest, I don't think your friend is to blame. You can meet guys too, you just don't have the transportation. You can't expect your friend to take you along every time she wants to go out.
And overall, you're probably looking for "genuine" guys in the wrong places. If you're going out strictly to meet guys, you'll definitely end up with a large number who want to get in your pants immediately and a non-existent number of those who actually want to have a relationship.
Right now, you're straddling the fence. Your post, not to mention you actions, all say that you just want to get laid. But at the same time you tell them you aren't that type of girl. I'm not advocating sleeping with someone on the first date, but I as part of my advice I am telling you to sort out what it is you want. Do you want a relationship? Or do you just want some action? I say pick one and act accordingly.
Best of luck :) I know my advice may seem a little tough, but I assume you came here for honest input, so there you go! :)
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