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*hadowre
writes:ok, right a few nights ago i was drinking(alcohol) while watching T.V and I got a bit pissed and I started crying a hell lot!Is that normal? (it's not the first time it happened either!) Also, my friends think I have an addiction to alcohol, I do like to drink as often as I can (every second day at least)! and I think about alcohol a lot! I can't meet up with my boyfriend without drinking!(I am shy around my boyfriend)Do I have a drink problem?
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reader, shadowre +, writes (27 March 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the question to be honest i think my mum is an alcoholic but also there are sum days like twice a month without any drink and shes fine!! i dont really know what i think of that! and yes me drinking the way i do is probly influenced by my mum!
iam shy in the sense of not really being able to talk to people comfortable! and iam independed in the way, i do my own thing, i do what i want, i dont care if sum1 calls me a name and i dont need sum1 holding my hand while going to the shop for example. all the girls in my class cant go anywhere without sum1 else and i think its sad!!
and ye i think ur right with the whole, him not liking me as a normal sober person! i went to his 2day sober, and it was grand! we had great fun and he sed he likes me and that hes happy with the relationship, so iam happy bout that!!
so the conclusion is i dont need to drink round my bf anymore!
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reader, lezlie +, writes (27 March 2008):
yeah,i get you im not the emotional type either..i dont mean to pry,but does your mum have a problem with drink?im not saying that whats i got from your reply,its just your problem might stem from that?please,correct me if im wrong..
you say your independant,but you seem shy aswell??i mean,why would you be scared about meeting up with him,sober?obviously he's going to see the real you then and maybe you think he wont like you?correct me again,if im wrong..
your right in saying everyone deals with their problems in different ways,thats so true..some people cry it out,some punch it out,and some just drink..but drink only numbs the pain for awhile??its only a temporary high..and after that all you get is a banging headache!
sooner or later youll want a drink breakfast,lunch,dinner...to constantly block out whatever your troubles are..id advise you to go talk to someone..maybe mum..or a relation or friend..before its too late hun..
hope i helped..xx
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reader, shadowre +, writes (27 March 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok u see, iam a really independent person, i dont care drinking on my own! iam happy to sit down, watch a film or sumthin and a have a drink. i suppose iam kinda used to it. my mum drinks everyday, she'd have a drink while watchen TV. i guess i learned from her!!
i drink to help me feel better!! i've done sum pretty shit things!! and i deal with things differently, i dont like people seeing me sad or angery. i always have a smile on my face when iam around people!! iam good at i too!
and tomorow is the first time meeting up with my bf sober!! yikes
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reader, lezlie +, writes (26 March 2008):
hiya..
im around your age,and iv just come out of a similar phase..well it was only a phase for me,fortunatley..
i started drinking at a young age(14)regularly..you get into the habit at the weekend,out with all your mates,havin a laugh..it gives you confidence,you start living for the weekend..no school,dont come in till all hours,one night stands,,,yes the life of a teenager!
but then you want the weekend to come quicker,so you drink during the week...and by yourself..i used to drink in my room,alone..and it was the worst feeling ever..i was like 'what am i doing,im alone,how sad am i?!'
but its just to numb that dull feeling isnt it?it transforms you into a different person,even just for a little while..shortly after i got counselling in my school..my counsellor told me i had to tackle my innermost feelings before i could lay off the drink...and i did,i just had really low self esteem..im nt saying im perfect now,i mean i still find it hard to get intimate with boys without the influence of alcohol,bt i now drink a lot less..
please get out of it,coz its an emotional thing..take a look at your family,friends..these are people that love you and wouldnt want you to do that to yourself..remember that..
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 You start drinking more, or using it to cope with other problems as well besides your shyness.
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reader, shadowre +, writes (25 March 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhat kind of "certain signs"?
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (23 March 2008):
Idk if you have a drinking problem or not, but if you do some day you're going to have to get help, whether it be now, or whether it be in the future. I'd look for certain signs to see if it is getting worse.
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reader, shadowre +, writes (22 March 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno i havent! but i'd be scared going. what if my mum found out!! i'd be dead
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (21 March 2008):
Have you looked up Alcoholics Anonymous to see if there is one located near you?
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reader, shadowre +, writes (21 March 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the questionye thats true! but i wana give up! but i cant
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reader, shadowre +, writes (20 March 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx for the advice but iam still going to mix drinks anyway!
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reader, shadowre +, writes (19 March 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice, but i cant drink non-alco drinks with alco in it! i love my whisky and coke, oh yeah and my smirnoff mixed with bacardi (and sumtimes I'd add in whisky as well) and coke! yum yum
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): yes...you have drinking problem which is not at all a good thing for anyone, much less someone as young as you. You seem confused or lacking confidence. But you who knows really. There all all sorts of emotional reason why ppl turn to alcohol and substaince abuse. I had a drinking issue as well...and I developed issues with my liver before the age or 21. So just FYI(for you information) you might want to seek help...or just STOP! ;)
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (18 March 2008):
In short yes you do.
An alcaholic is quite simply somebody who needs a drink - somebody who feels they cannot function unless they have a drink inside them.
You say "I do like to drink as often as I can" - does that indicate that you would drink continuously if the stuff was available on tap to you - or if nobody was keeping an eye on your situation?
With the prices of alcaholic drinks in Ireland I am suprised that anybody can afford to drink out there.
In closing I have to say to you that I believe you are an alcahiolic, from what you have written, and you need to go get yourself some help or go somewhere where you can dry out a bit.
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