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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have a major issue I am infatuated with a another man but I love my husband and have been married for 6 years with 2 kids. It all started in 2004, I met a man who was a courtesy office at a property I worked at. I interacted alot with him due to my line of work helping me walk units and sometimes we talk about his marriage since b/c at the time he was seperated from his wife and also lived in the same complex, and the scent of his colonge enticed me everytime he came in my office and we flirted on the side but nothing too serious. However, he eventually moved out the complex to be a security office at another complex a year later. So, I went on with my life and every now and then thought about him. I found another job myself but ended getting laid off year later. So I ended up getting back in that field and as I interview come to find out the same courtesy officer worked there too. I don't know what to do I want him so bad and I can't stop thinking about him sexually, but don't want to hurt my husband and I have too much at stake. But I also have a problem b/c my husband can't keep an erection which is killing our sex life and rarely have an orgasm. However, I have not fully accepted the job offer at this new job, because I am scared that I may want things to go a little further with this courtesy officer this time. But also I need to get back working and no other job offers has presented itself but this one. So what do I do take job and deal with temptation of this man or be unemployed. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): To add to my question on what to do.If I did accept the job(since I need to hurry up and go back to work since I have bills to pay and hate sitting at home) how will I deal the attraction I have to him and deal with the erotic scent of his colonge that mesmerizes me.
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (11 September 2007):
 I see what your problem is loud and clear. In fact, it couldn't be any clearer if you drew it in the clouds with some really bright highlighter saying "LOOK AT ME!!" anyways...have you never watched "Love Actually"? its a fantabulous movie. this woman is completely in love with the boss (Alan Rickman) but hes married and has lots of children (his wife is Emma Thompson). She is young, he is old, and he is bored with his relationship. this is a completely natural thing to happen within long term relationships. its OK to fantasize about other men. i think being in close proximity with this dream boat of yours will cause some marital problems. especially with that husband of yours with the erectile disfunctions. have u maybe discused medication to make it better? anyways. in the end of the movie, Allan Rickman decides he loves his wife and stick with her to the end. at least thats what i think happens. and even if i remembered incorrectly, its what should happen with you. i think you should reject the job because of "inner temptations" and go make love to the love of your life/ your hubby. Actually..you shouldn't feel bad at all about all this. most couples wind up having an affair or emotional affair due to sheer boredom or upset. maybe there is a deeper issue in this than what meets the eye.
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