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writes:Me and my girlfriend broke up 1 week ago. We had ben together for almost 3 years. We bought a house together, now we are trying to figure that one out. She tells me that she is not in love with me. The thing is she keeps tellling me with all her exes she knew it was over for good, but with me it's different. She says feelings change and that in time she might fall back in love with me. The thing is it's over and that's it, I just dont get why she puts false hope in my head. She said the same thing to her parents , she said I'm not in love with him right now but feelings change.I don't know, then I found out she kissed one of her good male friends. She told me it was nothing that she got drunk and it happened. She said she dosent want to ruin their relationship and that it was a mistake. I don't get it I need some help!!!
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reader, ohbetheone +, writes (12 September 2007):
ohbetheone is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe is going to be turning 27 this October. I still go by and see her parents , and she always asks her parents how I'm doing. She also has been calling me to see how I'm doing, and called me Monday first thing in the morning to see how I was doing and how my weekend was. But I know it could just be a friendly thing I'm trying not to look too much into things like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): It sounds to me like she is very confused. I'd be interested to know how old she is. If she's in her early to mid-twenties (like I am) this is my read on the situation: Sounds like she's been in several relationships, maybe for most of her adult life so far. She may be feeling that she's missing out on the fun of the single life and she's itching to go and have fun. I don't necessarily mean that she she wants to sleep with other people, but maybe just go out and get attention from other guys. I think a lot of girls in their 20s feel this way...I don't think it has anything to do with you personally, just part of her being young.
As far as her hooking up with the other guy. I know it hurts and makes you feel awful, but try not to stress about it too much. I doubt that it has anything to do with you. Again, it's probably her just wanting to have fun while she's still young. It sounds like you two are in a very serious relationship with the house and all...she probably just feels like she has to get everything "out of her system" before settling down with you. I know it's hard to hear and really hurts, but try to stick it out if you really love her.
Anyway, the bottom line is that I don't think it's necessarily over for good. If you can handle it, try to give her some time and don't call her. It will make her crazy wondering what you're doing and she will more than likely come crawling back to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): i would let her have her space and find a girl that ....lets say...is not looking for a relationship. do whatever with this girl...just go on dates or take it all the way. however you feel comfortable. but in this time she will wonder why your calls have cut back and actually miss you....or be jealous =]
good luck
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