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30-35,
*ulka
writes:Hi ,I was with my boyfriend for 2 years when he cheated on me I was that angry that I left flat 2 days after as I find out I am so jealous of him having another and I love him. I was jealous that he liked another girl as they been working together. After one month we have got back I couldn`t do it with out him so I thought I forgive but I haven`t I was checking his phone,his facebook and even I have`nt find anything I was still not happy that girl still works there as I knew that he still liked her.In time I have understud why he cheated on me I have`nt pay any attention to him I know now that it was bad. After we got back we just been arguing and he became too nasty to me doing stuff he really shoudn`t. We got 2 more years back but I just couldn`t do it she is been there. After 4 years I have left him he did`nt want engage ,he didn`t want to married me so I asked my self why he is then with me if I clean after him,cook for him,give him everything so why he dont want that with me. Never explanation untill now.Now we meet sometimes but he is style in touch with that girls friend and I don`t like her he don`t want to expect me on Facebook his excuse is because I be annoying why he is on it. Now I wanted to get back to him live back as now I know I forgive him if he will be not in touch with any of those girls. Can someone understand him what he want from me. When I txt him he always txt bck when I call him just sometimes I think he loves me but can`t forgive him I left him third time but it was big reasons I cant live with him knowing god knows what he really want from me just pay his flat help him out. Now I live with my parents and I am not sure how to get over all this.I am ready to move on with out him but I am scate to, that I may want him back because I love him and he will not forgive me if I be with another guy.But will he ever expect me like his wife one day or just someone he can be with untill he don`t find the right one.?Do I deserve better one ? Or is it him who deserve better? Please help..
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reader, Atsweet1  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 well both of you cause youve been cheated and there's no trust
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (10 August 2012):
He cheated, and does not seem to regret that at all. You thought you had forgiven him, but you ended up getting completely paranoid, checking his phone and on-line accounts and not trusting him even when you didn’t find any evidence. So, what makes you think you’ve forgiven him this time? Have you got it wrong again like you did last time? If you got back in a relationship with him, you’d just be walking back in to something that’s failing and that clearly doesn’t work. Loving him isn’t enough, he’s got to love you back and want the same things such as commitment that you want. I’m afraid he doesn’t want those things, and you care much more for him than it seems he does for you, so you need to get all those around you to give you support because facing up to the fact that it’s over is going to be tough, but it’s what you need to do.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2012): I think after you took your break from him you should have talked established the reasons for the cheating then drew a line under it. Because arguing just makes it worse believe me I've been there.
The fact that he's still in contact with this girl shows lack of respect for you and his unwillingness to move on also, so really you can't be expected to move on. Also you have to stop looking at his fb ect because that just makes it worse, your setting yourself up for more heartbreak because your causing more mistrust.
I'm not going to lie you deserve better, from this post I feel like you are blaming you for his indisgressions. You are the one who stayed faithful and you are the one who gave him a second chance. He's blew his second chance.
I personally wouldn't take someone back of they made no effort I do believe couples can move on from this, but I do believe it takes work from both parties and this can take years.
Cut your losses and find someone who deserves you and who atleast respects you.
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reader, deezy12 +, writes (10 August 2012):
You cannot make a Guy want to be with you. If he is beingyour friend and texting and calling he obviously cares alot about you other wise he would ignore you and act like you don't exist. If he wants to be with someone he will be with them and if one of his Exes come around he will more than likely cheat he is a man they love women! Especially young men. You r not someone he'd probably date right now you are probably a potential wife in witcha case he'll put you off to explore and later when he's ready to settle down he'll look for you. Hope this helps
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