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writes:Have known my sister in-law for 15 years, during the time of my wife's illness and passing I and the sister in-law where together and made all the decisions together during this time. Now 4 Months after my wife's passing my sister in-law stops by to visit and finds another women at my place, during our conversation about this we both have discovered that we have had an emotional affair for some time and both admit that there is a mutual attraction to each other. So do I go any farther and pursue this as she is married or let it go as a relationship made out of the need for each other at the time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): She is married. Are you assuming she will get a divorce to marry you? I f there are children after the dust settles this will affect them and everyone else in the family. Just let it die.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): If either of you have children, you need to put a stop to this immediately. Children of any age will be profoundly affected if you take this any further.
If no children,
It's true that you both shared an incredibly emotional and hard time and found solace in each other. But grief is not such a solid foundation for a relationship.
Consider taking a break from each other and make sure your feelings are true and not the result of your tragedy.
Leaping into a relationship at this point can produce more damage than good, so take it slow and be careful!
Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2010): You started liking your wife's sister while your wife was dying? Let it go.It's been 8 months since my wife passed. I can't look at any woman, let alone her own SISTER.
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reader, tjazzy  +, writes (27 March 2010):
Since she's married, you'd better leave her alone. Spread your net outside the family. If you're so lovable you'll surely meet your own woman and not have to steal from another man. Good luck.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (27 March 2010):
Hi 20,000 dollar question here.
What do you realy feel. Is it just the fact that you were pushed together? Are you seeking someone to empathise with you.
Does she and your b-i-law deserve you to act like this/ I think you ust leave well alone for much longer. Emotionally you must still be in turmoil, do not ruin a relationship by acting now and regreting it, I feel he response is not as good as I would hope?
She may also be taking advanyage of you and the relationship if it is expanded may end in tears for all of you!
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