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writes:ok here it goes...my name is eliza and me and my boyfriend have been toghether for a month he is a good guy but he is reallly immature and really obsessive and grabs my ass and my boobs like every 5 mins. He loves me but sometimes i dont know if i love him. i dont wanna hurt him by any means becuz i do care for him lots but idk...... theres this other guy ive known way longer and were like bestfriends. i feel like i can talk to him about anything, and i cant do that with my boyfriend becuz hes really judgemental, and this other guy is really mature and understanding, and he likes me alot.He wants me to break up with my boyfriend for him he said its all up to me, and that if i dont choose him he will be hurt but he can deal with it. i like him soo much it hurts. i cry becuz im so confused. i mean i like him but i have a boyfriend who loves me and i know ill have a stable future with him, ... but if i break up with him for this other guy and it doesnt work out, ill be really sad. i like my boyfriend i just like this other guy way more
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 February 2010):
 Chose the guy that you can't live without...that would be the wiser choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2010): You’re taking groping you as love? You’re no more than a lay for him. How old are you?
Uncle Larry:
When you have self-respect, you could value your self-worth! When you have no self-respect, you are treated as worthless!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 February 2010):
Your boyfriend sounds really unstable and immature to be honest. If he's treating you this way now, then what will he be like in say a years time? Ten times worse. And apart from that, you really prefer your friend.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (21 February 2010):
 Yuck. Youre boyfriend is really disrespectful.
The relationship with your friend sounds more stable.
Who should you choose? The person that you love, of course!
You don't get many opportunities for happiness. The relationship with your friend is something you certainly don't find every day.
Maybe you feel guilty about ending things with the boyfriend, because you don't wanna hurt him. I understand that. But if you don't love him then by staying with him, you're denying him the chance to find someone that really IS right for him.
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reader, paul739 +, writes (21 February 2010):
I have been in this position...and my simple answer is choose your friend. Looking back at my experience I would not have to give it a moments thought to know I would be doing the right thing.
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (21 February 2010):
Honey. You and your BF have been together for a month? Nobody really loves anybody after a month. Nobody has a stable future with anybody after a month. Also a month into a romantic relationship, most people are still on their very best behavior. So if your guy is already immature, obsessive, grabby, closeminded and judgemental... how do you think he will be in 6 months? A year?
From what you describe, your friend who you can talk to seems like the better choice.
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