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writes:There's this one girl, and she and I are so compatible that you'd think we were made for each other. We typically have urges to watch, eat, and do the same things at the same time. When we need to work as a team, we're like a well-oiled machine... But there's no romantic spark. Even kissing her feels more like a ritual obligation rather than an insatiable desire.And then there's this other girl. She and I hadn't seen or heard from each other for 3 years, and we finally reconnected. All throughout those 3 years I couldn't help thinking about her, and she tells me she had thought about me too... But we don't seem nearly as compatible. We have different lifestyles, different desires. We probably wouldn't even consider being a couple if not for the fact that we can't stop thinking about each other.Choosing compatibility is probably a better guarantee for a long lasting relationship. But is it enough? To live your life with a partner you don't feel romantically attached to?Choosing romance will probably bring more happiness at first, but as I'm sure we all know, romance can burn out at any time, and then we'll just be two people who don't get along very well.So which should I choose? Romance? Compatibility? ...Or should I choose neither and keep myself open to whatever else life may bring?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): ok so you say that kissing the first girl feels like an obligation. it shouldn't. theres know way you can start a relationship if theres no passion or desire. it simply wouldn't work. she sounds more like a really close freind rather than a girlfriend.
You say the second girls not compatable but do you still have fun with her? if you still have a good time together than what does it matter? if you really like her and she really likes you than just go for it. if it doesn't work out than at least you know what would have happened. otherwise you might regret it and only think about her more.
just go with your gut instinct.
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (24 July 2008):
 Take your pick from two contrasting phrases:
"Great minds think alike" (woman 1)
"Opposites attract" (woman 2)
Don't ask us. Only you can choose!
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