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writes:well ive been with the guy i love for a year and a month on july28. all through our relationship its been great and yeah arguments here and there! but is was never this bad and it dint really bother me! but now every time he calls my office or cell and i dont answer right away he thinks im on the other line with someone or messing around! and it really stresses me out cause ive been trying to show him that i would not do that to him its just you kno diff. things diff. times i could be talking with a customer or i cant hear my phone you kno that sort of things! but he wont believe me i dont kno wat he wants me to prove to him i mean gosh we see eachother everyday (we live together) and i love that i get to see him eachday i get out of bed and go to bed! i love it but lately wen he accuses me i cry cause im soo stressed out from xplaining everything to him and he believe me then later bring it up again! hes this way cause of my PAST relationships how can i get him to trust me and stop having arguments like this! i dont want to end up messing up this relationship i love him soo much!HELP! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2008): He is insecure about something. Talk to him to find out if maybe one of his ex's cheated on him or why he is having a low opinion of himself? Try to get to the root of the problem. I get a little jealous at times but thats because I was cheated on in the past and I just lost a little faith in human nature. Talk to him and try to get him to understand that he is worthy of love and that there is no-one else out there that you want to be with...Trust is a difficult thing to build but if you can just help him find his self-confidence I am sure he will be fine. There is no short quick way to build trust I'm afraid but be patient with him...however frustrating it is. Good luck xx
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (24 July 2008):
I don't think you can. If he doesn't accept that you could be doing some work while at work then he has some serious issues.
Tell him that this is his problem not yours. If he doesn't deal with it then he is going to lose you.
I see lots of guys asking advice on here about how to get their girl back after they've been dumped for being jealous and controlling. They never change whilst IN the relationship.
Be tough!
Good Luck!! xx
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