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writes: Like a lot of guys, my boyfriend is one of the manly man. He doesn't like me wearing a lot of make-up. His reason is because he likes me being natural, and also he doesn't want me to get make-up all over him. He's very aganist skin product, even sun lotion. For quite a while, everytime I see him, I'll make sure I don't wear any make-up, and dress really casual (which honestly is easier than the other way around). Lately, he had made a comment about how casual I dress now, and I sometimes dress to go out as if I'm at home. So then, I started to put on light make-up and start putting on dressier clothes, and heals. He doesn't have a problem with me dressing like that now. Sometimes I feel he had low self-confident back then because he used to be about 20 pounds overweight. Now his body and face actually slim down, he doesn't mind me looking good while I hold his hand walking around the mall. He's a really causal guy. Wear jean and T-shirt or maybe a casual button shirt. I'm sometimes scared to dress really good still and make him feel bad for under-dressing. Do you think he thinks about it like this, or he probably doesn't care, or he feel proud having a dressy girlfriend? He always say I think about what he thinks too much.
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reader, Tine  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 it does sound as though you do worry about what he is thinking.. why not ask his opinion on what you are wearing so that you get the exact answer your looking for without beating around the bush. But something is telling me that you are holding back a bit from being your absolute self. Fair enough he doesnt like you wearing make-up and you obviously like wearing it so meet him in the middle and just tone your make-up down to a more natural look. If you are going out then use it as an excuse to get all dressed up and when you are just being "casual" then dress casual. If you both arent doing anything to exciting then just dress normal, a guy does like to see a girl make an effort no matter what they say!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2006): Hun, I agree you are over-thinking this way too much. It sounds like in the beginning, he made it known to you what he liked and didn't like, on you. Now you are a bit anxious about impressing him. Don't do that to yourself...he takes you 'as is' and you dress the way you want. You are showing him you can think for yourself and make your decisions about your appearance. Most guys love that streak of strength and independence in a woman. It shows she is intelligent, vibrant and can function in the world without caring really what others think of her. As long as you not dressing like a weirdo and he's not complaining--keep dressing nice, casual, with little or no makeup, then there should be nothing to worry about. Just make sure he's proud of you, because of 'who' you are and not because of your attire. That's silly and a bit controlling. I always question guys who do this to a woman. It's very disrespectful and immature. As for his dislike of sun lotion, I disagree with that. I think you should wear it as it can keep your skin protected from harmful rays. When it goes on, it soaks in anyways and it makes no noticeable difference. Look after yourself and do what is best for you.
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reader, girlwithproblems +, writes (11 September 2006):
 I think its great that your bf loves you for who you really are not just if you slap on some make up. cut him some slack every body has down times when your confidence is low
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