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writes: ryt well i was seeing this lad for about 2 months and we were really really getin on with each but all of a sudden he sent me a txt saying he dosnet want a girlfreind and he still wants 2 be friends.but i see him out all the time and i have 2 txt him i just get the erge to. then i feel like among if he doesnt txt me bk n get more depressed but when he does we meet up sometimes and end up having sex he even stayed at my house last night i dont know if im doin the right thing or not because i find its ok because im single and i like him but i know its just messing with my head more plzzzzz reply i need help i cant keep on crying over him :| xxx
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reader, princessnikki +, writes (11 September 2006):
 RRrrr babe, plz don't cry
Any man that makes you cry isn't worth the tears sweetie.
I hate to say it, but it sounds like he is just using you. He knows exactly hoe to push your buttons and knows eexactly how you feelBy texting him, you are letting him know you are still there as his bootty call if he wants you. I'm not saying he doesn't care, but he doesn't care how you want hoim to, else he wouldn't ignore you.
If i were you, I would delete his number and change my own so as the temptation isn't there anymore. That way it isn't easy for you to be at his beck and call.
One day, you will laugh about this to your man as he cooks your dinner and showers you with gifts. Don't let this loser be what you settle for. Your worth more than that.
Good Luck babes xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2006): I feel for you, cos I am in the same place right now.People have helped me realise though that this is the type of man that just wants sex, and by you giving it to him he's just getting everything he wants and it leaves you feeling rejected, hurt and wanting for more.I'd set him an ultimatum, he either wants you or he doesn't - and then as hard at is (and I know it IS hard) move on if he isn't prepared to respect and commit to you. God it sounds easy to say, I feel for you honey i really do.x
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reader, smileyhugs +, writes (11 September 2006):
It sounds like this guy wants the best of both worlds, the sexual fun without the commitment. You need to work out if you are happy with this. Maybe this suits you fine.From my experience, two people having this kind of set-up usually ends in tears. One person is very content with just fun and sex and the other is hoping that one day this will progess in to a proper relationship. The second person could be broken hearted. I would suggest talking to this guy, find out what he really wants, but work out what you really want too.
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reader, Tine  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 it sounds as though you really like him and to be honest hun i think he is using you for sex. If he has made it clear to you that he doesnt want a girlfriend then he is only looking for sex. You are becoming emotionally attached to him and the more you see him the more you will fall in love with him and being honest you are setting yourself up for a fall. If feelings are involved then i suggest you stay away from him, no matter how hard it may be because in the end you will end up getting a broken heart.
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reader, girlwithproblems +, writes (11 September 2006):
 hes useing u for sex my bf did that once ditch him now before he hurts u anymore
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 You my dear are being used. Call it what it is. He knows he can have sex without you with no strings attached and thats what he is doing and as long as you let him thats all you will have is a sex partner. Tell him to go to hell and find someone who is willing to commit to you 100% not just a hook-up whenever he feels the need. Don't let yourself be reduced to this. Good Luck.
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