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writes:My boyfriend of over a year has recently lost his brother. Those two were tied at the hips and it's really taken a tole on him. His brother left behind a wife and two children. Him and his brother are the only two siblings. It's really a tragity. Now obviously we're not married, so this is really going to take a tole on our relationship. He hasn't been able to kiss me or hug me and there has been no sex, which I can understand. But it's to the point now where he's going to bend over backwards for his brother's wife and those kids, pushing me further and further out of the picture. He already has trips planned with him, her and the kids..no me. My birthday is coming up and it's not even a thought in his mind. I defianly don't want to be pushed a side for good, and yet I undertand all the same. Would it be in my best interest to just break it off, or hold on and see what happens? I really want to be here for him through this time, but he's not letting me in. Desperetly seeking answers! Reply to this Question
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (18 August 2010):
 Try to be a friend to him in his time of need. but also take a step back. his whole world was just rocked from his brother's death. let him be and kind of phase yourself out until he's ready to resume his relationship with you... if indeed that's what he wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): I am very sorry to hear this. What he is doing here is thinking he as to take over the role of his brother now he is gone. When you get him on his own just tell him how you feel. Tell him that you care and want to be involved in helping him cope. To be honest, if he thought of you as much of you think of him he would also be crying on your shoulder as well as his sister in law. You should hold on though he may not realise what he is doing.
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