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writes:So for me personally I'm not very emotional. My close family (mom, dad and siblings) are the only ones that have seen me cry. I tend to not tell my feeling or share that part of me with others. This guy I am seeing has been pretty open with me about his life and things like that. I just wonder if maybe he would want to see a softer vulnerable side to me? Or maybe he doesn't care if he does or not. I don't want him to think I'm emotionally cut off or anything I'm just a little guarded. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 February 2013):
 what a man who loves you wants to see is YOU. THE TRUE YOU
not what you THINK a woman should be... or what you THINK will please a man.
what pleases Sageoldguy might piss off my husband...
what you have to figure out is how to be true to yourself and find a guy that fits with that.... not be something false to yourself to get someone to love you.
THE RIGHT PERSON will LOVE YOU for who you are naturally.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (20 February 2013):
Trying to be something that you're not to attract a guy will usually not work. The key with dating is to find someone who likes you for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2013): "If YOU think that you are acting too detached for your own tastes, or YOU have too much trouble expressing your emotions, and YOU are uncomfortable with this part of yourself and want to change it for yourself, by all mean do it."
Exactly OP, if you think the relationship could benefit from you opening up a bit more or you feel you'd like to then go ahead. As others said, he's with you because of who you are, not what he expects women to be. I mean it can't hurt to let him in on some minor things can it? Do what feels right and what feels comfortable for you OP, don't worry about him too much. As long as you're able to communicate your needs to him and are able to discuss problems relating to your relationship with him then everything will be fine.
I'd much rather a woman like you than one that is the opposite and never shuts up about her life or problems.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 February 2013):
 You are the way you are- and he should like you just the way you are ,flaws included.
If YOU think that you are acting too detached for your own tastes, or YOU have too much trouble expressing your emotions, and YOU are uncomfortable with this part of yourself and want to change it for yourself, by all mean do it.
But please don't try to turn yourself in a weeping willow just because you have thought it's cuter or more feminine ( which is highly debatable anyway ! )
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 February 2013):
 Your submittal "sounds" like you are trying to craft yourself to match the girl who you think your guy wants.
Why not simply be yourself?... and see if that is the kind of girl that this guy would like to spend time with??
Good luck....
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