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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have a pretty good guy friend I've been crushing on for some time now. Back in October I told him how I felt, and he told me he didn't feel the same way about me, but lately he's been coming off as extremely flirtatious to me. I'm wondering if he might have changed his mind, or if he still only thinks of me as a friend and it's just wishful thinking.When we hang out, it seems like he talks to me a lot more than he talks to the other people we're with. It's not like he totally ignores them and focuses all his attention on me, but it does seem like I get a lot more of it than the others. When he's talking to me, he looks into my eyes to the point where it's somewhat uncomfortable. I am a shy person, but it seems strange to me that even after we've been quiet for a second he'll still be gazing into my eyes. Also, it seems like he can remember many little things I mention that I don't even remember saying to him, and often brings them up. For example, one night I was telling him about some strange dreams I had the night before, but I didn't get to finish telling him about them before I left. Then when I saw him the next day, one of the first things he said was "Finish telling me about your dreams!" I'd totally forgotten we'd talked about that.He also teases me a lot about various things, such as my shortness, and goofy things I've said and done in the past. He often playfully punches me, kicks me, and throws stuff at me, too.In the past, he's done a lot of these things, but it seems like lately he's been doing it much more than before. I want to confront him about it, but since he's already turned me down once, I don't want to say something again and come off as desperate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): hmmm some people can be naturally flirty..
but why wouldnt he want to go out with you? maybe he got really nervous and didnt want to lose you as a friend..and has changed his mind..but either way he cant mess you about! if he keeps it up i would speak to him again and tell him to stop flirting when he does not want to go out with you as it is confusing you and your friendship
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