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writes:I feel that my current gf doesn't like me touching her pussy when we kiss because I always thought that girls, like us guys, liked to be touched there when petting but my current gf passed a comment while I put my hand inside her panties the other day made me feel that she didn't like it. ofcourse I pulled my hand away immediately feeling quite guilty but when I asked her if she thought touching her there was wrong she said no, infact she said it is quite nice.My question especially from the female readers is it wrong to be touched there. I don't want to be doing something unacceptable with my gf also I have been with afew girls before and non objected to be touched but non of them ever touched back except one which was a little older and more experienced. am I doing something wrong by touching my gf there. pls help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): After 92 partners i can honestly say that I have only met 4 women who did not want to be touched in that way and most REQUIRE it. But how and when to do it is something you will have to learn from her, same with oral sex positions technique etc etc, Communication is vital, especially in pleasing a woman. Without it you are lost.That anonymous comment about books written for men was WEIRD. Were you implying that most women DONT like those things? I can assure you that many do except maybe tongue in ear. Every woman is different, however you appear to be the oddball.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): Do you always do it when you are kissing? Maybe you're just overwhelming with it. Maybe you need to lay off some.
My ex used to do this to me all the time and I hated it. Once he started kissing me, his hand went there. He couldn't even wait for me to give any signals that I was in the mood. He just assumed that because I was kissing back, I wanted sex and wanted to be touched right away.
Don't get me wrong, being touched there is nice, but touching a girl in that area too soon after you start kissing can ruin the moment or if she's not in the mood. Just because you two are kissing does not mean she's sexually turned on also. Wait for signals or wait for clothes to be taken off (almost a sure sign she wants sex) before touching her there. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): ive honestly never heard of any body doing that i put hand on her side or most ass(cheeks) even if we are naked there imo is a time for everything ie kissing for me is to me the main time to put a girl at ease that you wont go to far and can control yourself.another thing i do is hold her hand and move them down to her ass she will move your hand to where she wants it
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 Stop touching her there if she's not in the mood. I don't like being touched there unless we're going to have sex and it's part of the foreplay. In which case I prefer to be undressed as it's very uncomfortable to have a hand down your pants. Girls clothing is often very skin tight, and there is NO ROOM for a hand! It just feels uncomfortable and not pleasurable at all for me. Especially if I wear a thong and the guy stretches it so that it goes far up my ass. UNPLEASANT! If they absolutely have to touch then I'd better be in the mood already, and the hand must either be outside of my clothing or wait until I am undressed.
But thats just me. You need to talk to your girl about what SHE enjoys. And don't compare all women to each other. Even if some women enjoy it, others may not. It's completely up to the individual. Touching her isn't wrong, but remember that it's all about context...
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reader, viccra78  +, writes (9 February 2011):
I would say yes if she is more experienced. However, if she is rather inexperienced, she might feel like you are rushing towards the prize and she might not be ready for that.
And sometimes a girl just wants to be kissed without anything else.
Talk to her :)
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reader, ashley187 +, writes (9 February 2011):
 I think there is a time and a place for everything. Sometimes a kiss is nice, just a simple kiss. To me that would mean more than being groped. lol. not saying I don't like to be touched, but I think that if you do it all the time, it will get overwhelming/make her feel like that's all you think about. I personally get annoyed when I'm trying to watch TV and my boyfriend is all over me. But unlike you, he doesnt really ever kiss me.. thats pretty much all he cares about is what he wants. don't ever let it get like that.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 February 2011):
 Maybe she fgeels you are being too pushy. If it seems like she doesn't want to be poked and prodded while kissing why not just run your fingers over all her body, not just focusing on her vagina. There is more to her you know ?! ;)
She might want to take things a little slower then you do.
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