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writes:During this past summer I met a great guy but I knew he was leaving back for college which was 6 hours from my home. We developed very strong feelings for each other but never called it official because we knew he was leaving. I tried and tried not falling for him and tried to see our time and just something fun but I couldn't do it. I fell hard for him and I miss him terribly. We promised each other that we'd stay in contact and we did for the first few months but he got very busy with school and we started talking less and less. it's been almost a year now and we talk every once in awhile but I got a boyfriend and he's about to get a girlfriend. I told him that me having a boyfriend were really just passing flings because they were and that I was just wasting time until he came back in about a year and a half. He still calls me "sweetheart" and he made hints that he loved me before he left but there was nothing we could do. I told him that I'll be here when we gets back but I don't know if I'm being played or if I should move on. I think about him everyday, I try not to but I can't help it. All my motivation feeds off my love for him. I even think for some reason that I need to do well in school so I can hurry up and graduate to be with him. Should I wait around for him? or should I completely turn my emotions off and forget about him to save myself from years of delusion?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much. :) I appreciate it. I'm trying very had to move on in my life and I am thankful for the advice.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 It's hard to turn emotions off just like that. What you could do is let him be free to do what he wants and don't make him feel that you are his responsibility. By maintaining the friendship only you can cope better. Don't be looking too far in to the future with him. He would have made much more of an effort if he had wanted that but it seems like y ou want more than him. Be his 'friend' and ween your self off the romantic dreams you have with him. It will be better for y ou emotionally to cope that way.
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reader, ashley187 +, writes (9 February 2011):
 I think that you need to concentrate on school and do for yourself. You can't not live your life in hopes that you will get back together. You have to live your life for you! And in this current situation there's nothing you can change. Don't hurry through school.. enjoy it, and experience things, learn as much as you can. you are only young once and you don't want to miss out and regret what you could have/should have done. If things are meant to be.. years down the road you will know. But for now..live for YOU and don't let your life revolve around a man.
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