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writes:Another post had me wondering... when you girls talk about your BF's to fairly close or very close friends, what is the limit on discussion? Do you just say things like "he's great in bed" "he's very tender", or do most women go into more detail and describe what was satisfying, what was not, how big, how small, etc?My GF was telling me (I love her for being so open) that she was talking to a coworker friend who she is work/happy hour buddies with only, about stamina. The coworker mentioned that 4 minutes was typical with her husband, and my GF said I could go for hours if I wanted. She said I was amazing in bed, and sex was mind blowing. I was thrilled, but it got me wondering how much else. I'm a little average down there...maybe a tad above, and honestly dont think I'd like details going out to every woman she knows. Not that I have a real problem with size, but lets face it...all guys want women to find out in person...not from a friend. So I guess the basic question here is, do women discuss their partners penis or technique in detail with GF's? If so, what do you talk about?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (14 July 2010):
 Yeah, many of us do. I can't speak for all women. But most of my friends and I talk about it a lot. Mostly I get into "competitions" with other women about who's boyfriend is better in bed and just better in general. I always win. However, he knows I talk to my friends about things and will sometimes ask me not to tell them something specific. I generally honor that. I also don't talk about genuinely embarrassing things about him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 July 2010):
 Oh my goddness, I don't think guys want to know this, but yeah sometimes every little embarassing detail...
You get a bunch of women together, open a bottle of wine and woo you would blush!
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reader, Odds +, writes (14 July 2010):
 Every girl does this. If you've never had the privilege of sitting in on one of those conversations, you're missing out. This has happened to me several times, but one time stands out - I have an ex who actually discussed our sex life with her girlfriends while I was sitting at the table!
Fortunately, while the information was all completely accurate, it was nothing to be ashamed of. I was too fascinated to stop her. Most I've ever told my guy friends is "Yeah, she bites hard."
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (14 July 2010):
 I agree with raiders and think it depends on how she sees you.I'm in a serious relationship and I've never, and would never, share intimate details about my BF to anyone. That's between me and him. I respect him too much to share those things about him with others. What we do is just between us and no one elses business.I think when the girl's not that serious about a guy, when she's after attention or when she likes sensationalism then she'll share.Some friends have asked me 'how big is it?' to which I reply that that's none of their business.I asked my BF this question the other day and he told me that in his circle of guy friends they don't share things like this if the girl is their serious girlfriend. One night stands and the like are for the taking though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): Umm, I don't like people knowing about things like that so I would not discuss my partner in detail, Not even with close friends, (I don't have one but if I did I would not be discussing things in a lot of detail with close friends :P)They don't need to know (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): Haha are you kidding?
Between a few good girlfriends there is pretty much NOTHING that doesn't get discussed!!
That said its usually much more detailed at the start of a new relationship then when you're in a serious one... don't know if that helps ...
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reader, seneca  +, writes (13 July 2010):
Yes, in great detail!An ex-gf of mine had a 'very best girl-friend' who, a few years later, I also went out with. She knew EVERYTHING about me, my bits, what I do in bed, what turns me on, etc. She said her friend had told her all about me and she had always wanted to try me out for herself!Also, I go to concerts in a nearby city often and because of the lack of inner city parking space I go by train, so I catch the last train back on a Fri.or Sat. night. That's the night for parties and I often overhear groups of girls on their way home on the last train who have been drinking, having a fun time, and talking to each other about their boyfriends - in great detail!! Over the last few years I have noticed a new trend - the majority of them have pictures of their boyfriend's erect penis on their mobile phones, which they pass around to compare.It's all been very instructive for me!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 Yes, with very close friends I have discussed penises. If I am currently in the relationship with someone and there is anything that might be awkward, I don't mention too many details. But the average is size, girth, shape and capabilities in bed.
If there is a one night stand or lover, someone the woman does not have deep feelings for, anything goes and all the details are spilled.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): My girls and I have very few limits on what we'll discuss- everything is fair game... so yes we do discuss our lovers in detail, sometimes a lot of graphic detail especially if booze is involved. Penis size is a hot topic, one of the first questions when one of us has sex with a new man for the first time is, "How big?" If a guy is smaller but still good technically, he'll still get loads of praise. If he's small AND bad in bed, it's becomes a conversation of jokingly consoling the woman who had to go to bed with him. In general average to big is considered a success but most discussions centre on technique, quirks, high points, low points, etc. Not all women are probably like this but in my general experience, women will always share something about the sex with their man, even if not as detailed- in general the worse the sex the less we want to talk about it, just want to move on and forget about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): ya, most of us really do
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): Why lie? When were talking about out BF's we DO talk about size,stamina,romance....EVERYTHING and yeah we say "we dont kiss and tell" but if the secret is soo good why hide it? Unless you have something to be ashamed of talking about you guys is a good thing.
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reader, raiders +, writes (13 July 2010):
 I think a female will share more sexual details about her boyfriend to her friends if the relationship is not that serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): Most emotionally mature women do not talk about their parnters in intimate detail, that's a sacred thing and there is a code of behavior you don't cross.
I suppose some of the younger girls talk like this, it's stupid to do so and no one's business but your own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): Every girl is going to be different and I think a lot of that has to do with how comfortable she is with herself and sex and how close she is to this guy and her friends. Some girls talk to share tips and tricks, or things that did or didn't work. Some girls talk to brag and show off or some talk to get pitty and sympathy. Personally me and my girls don't really discuss in that much detail and we've been friends for about 15 years. We never really discuss things like size unless he's so big he should be doing porn, but when the topic of size comes up it's mostly only to explain how his size didn't make the sex any better than an average size guy. However it can change if it's casual versus a relationship. If it's a casual thing then we're more likely to discuss how good/bad it was, and share more details. If it's a serious relationship we tend to keep everything to ourselves. It's a very intimate situation and I tend to not want all my friends to know about the details. I never really give out specifics I might tell them we were up all night, or something about how i can't wait to get home and tear his clothes off. But unless something is wrong we don't tend to share graphic details.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (13 July 2010):
 It depends a. how much you are willing to give away, b. how your partner would feel, and c. how easily the subject makes the person you are talking to uncomfortable.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 July 2010):
My girlfriend has said to me that she's discussed me with her friends. So I guess they do.
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