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writes:My LDR gf just told me today that there were 3 guys who ask her to the prom. i ask her if she going and she said i dont know. Is it really okay to let my gf go to the prom with another guy. Reply to this Question
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reader, Daydreamer08 +, writes (19 March 2010):
Daydreamer08 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni mean i let my gf go anywhere she want...i told her on my view of what i think about this prom thing and it was her choice on whether she want to go or not.
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reader, LilPixie  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 I'd be surprised if my guy let me go to the prom with another guy!
Me and most of my friends didn't have a date for our prom and we had a great time!
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (19 March 2010):
 You didn't say how far apart you guys are. I'm getting the impression it's far enough that you can't go with her? If that's the case, then I would find it's ok with her to go with another guy, cause the prom is usually pretty important to a girl - it's what we all look forward to junior and senior years. It will also give you a chance to trust, as trust is crucial in an LDR. Just give her some ground rules (for lack of a better word as that sounds kind of bossy) of how you feel about the situation and how much you love her and you will always love her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): What is a LDR? I take it she lives far away? I don't think you should let her go with someone else. Going to the prom with someone is classed as a date and that should be you.
I think you should try and go yourself with her if you like her enough don't let her go with anyone else.
All the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): Unless you can be there to take her yourself you should definitely let her go.
Prom is a big deal to girls, why wouldn't you want her to enjoy herself?
Only a very insecure man would have a problem with this.
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reader, sweetiebabes  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 You sounded like you don't trust your GF, and this is not a healthy relationship. Jealousy, doubts and mistrust are relationship killers.
Love transcends even from a distance if you have the trust, honesty and respect with each other. Your GF has been honest by telling you, she asked for your approval. Why don’t you make a conversation with her and try to ask her if she knows well these guys, if she doesn’t, then tell your reasons why cannot allow her to go and tell her you care for her and you just want to protect her. Or perhaps she can ask some relatives who can be her partner to the prom. Have an open communication on this matter with her, where you both agree with the decisions.
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reader, Kenj +, writes (19 March 2010):
 At the end of the day it’s not your decision, it’s hers. If she asks your advice just tell her you would rather she didn’t but she’s old enough to make up her own mind.
If she truly loves you she should not go with another guy, unless the guy is like her platonic friend who has known her for some time before you came along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): I wouldn't..it's already bad enough the long distance can take its toll on your relationship with your g/f, let alone some other guy trying to move in and cut you off from afar. I could see if someone like her brother or cousin was taking her, but not some random guy that's possibly trying to work his magic on her while you're not around. That's a great way to kiss her goodbye if you let her do things like that. You might as well start dating other girls on your end if she takes someone, since the prom is a glorified date. It's understandable that she would like to have a date to the prom, but most guys don't know how to stop at being just nice, and try to go the extra mile, so who's to say she won't reciprocate in such a situation, and then it's all downhill from there.. Long distance relationships can be very tricky, since different scenarios like that can play out, so go with her history that you know about her...how she talks, who she talks about, what she's done in the past, etc. Also, go with your gut feeling, but lastly, remember what might result of her simply going with a date to the prom, while you're miles away, and that she might as well start trusting you to date girls in your area just the same, since you would be doing nothing worse than she is. The prom is just a date with a big name, so try to remember how alot of prom stories play out and maybe you'll understand that it boils down to being a date. Two questions..do you live close enough that it's possibly for you to take her?..and being a long distance relationship g/f, do you know her inside out to be able to trust her with one of those guys? Ask yourself those two questions, and then you'll find the answer from one of them, within yourself.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (19 March 2010):
 A prom is usually pretty important to a girl. As I see it, you either find some way to attend the prom with her, or let her go with another guy. There are many difficulties in a LDR, this is one of them......
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