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writes: I am 20 and had my first sex with my boyfriend, but my boyfriend doubt that I was not a virgin just because I didnt bleed.. Do all virgins bleed??? has my virgnity gone because I used toys before I has sex with my boyfriend?? Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (5 June 2011):
no not all bleed, so tell your boyfriend that. it is not nice of your boyfriend to call you a liar or at least thinks you are lying about your virginity
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): Hi, I'm a male, I personally thinks that virgin isn't that important for someone you loved and the someone that in turns loved you very much, as long loyalty is there... =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): I didnt bleed until a year after I started having sex, it took someone that long the break my hymen
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reader, adamantine +, writes (1 June 2011):
No, not all virgins bleed. The hymen can be broken by many things as already mentioned, but you said you had used toys prior to losing your virginity, so that may be why.
You should show him our answers if he still doesn't believe you :)
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reader, muso888 +, writes (1 June 2011):
no, I didn't either.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 June 2011):
nope not all virgins bleed. you have to tear the hymen to bleed and if it tore as a child (from activity such as horseback riding, running, tree climbing) or from tampon or toy use, you will not bleed.
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (1 June 2011):
Nope, I didn't. Neither did a lot of my friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): Wow. No, not every woman who is a virgin will bleed their first time having sex. Sports, horseback riding, sex toys, etc. can rupture the hymen and therefore you won't bleed when you have sex for the first time.
Your boyfriend should appreciate what you have given him more and stop fussing about why you didn't bleed. Most guys would be happy that their girlfriend didn't bleed all over them during sex, but it a guys head that's probably how he was going to tell whether or not you were really a virgin and if he doesn't believe you at your word then I think you should tell him where to go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): Hi there!
No, not all virgins bleed. Bleeding is caused by the hymen rupturing, but many girls have already broken theirs before they have sex. Using toys internally would do it, but sometimes something as simple as playing sport can have that effect. It's nothing to be ashamed of, or worried about.
To be honest, it sounds like you need to tell your boyfriend where to get off! If the only thing he can think about after you've given him this special experience is whether you bled or not, he wants his head examining! Not only is that insensitive, it suggests that he has some trust issues there.
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