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writes:... when they're in a serious relationship or marriage? Or maybe I should be asking, What type of guys drop their guy friends when they've got a s.o.? I was asking my bf why he doesn't have guy friends he hangs out with. He said they've all gotten married, and the ones who do hang out only want to do it with their wives as well. I don't get why some guys don't just say (as I do with my girl friends), "Hey, let's get together for dinner/coffee/a drink Wednesday night." I'm mean, do guys either find everything they need in their relationship with their s.o., or do they think hanging out one-on-one with another guy is only something for single guys (or losers???)? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 March 2012):
 In my experience it’s important for married couples to have couple friends and for each partner to have “single friends” whether they be part of another couple or not.
I agree totally with Danielepew that no ONE person can be everything to another. Thankfully all my partners have agreed with me on this matter.
I go out for girls weekends. I have dinner with my girlfriends without my partner… My current partner just moved from one state to another so he has no local friends that are not currently part of our couples group but when we go on our vacation in August I am sure I will not see him all that much as he will be doing GUY things with his guy friends while I do girl things with the girl friends… And I would love for him to have guy friends that are local for him to be close to.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 March 2012):
 When you're the only one of the bunch of friends who hasn't married, you're the oddball who is not on the same wavelength as the others. Yes, you're cool and all that, but you don't have to change diapers, go with wifey to a dinner, et cetera. I assume your boyfriend is this person with respect to the rest of his friends, and I think he's just telling you the truth about why he doesn't hang out with anyone.
I will get lots of criticism for this, but no person can actually fulfill every need of yours. You just think they do, but they don't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): I was raised by my parents that married couples remain married when they have mutual, married friends. As when we surround ourselves with like minded individuals with similar standards, beliefs- less stress and factors that attack the marriage and home life.
I found I have more in common with Family Oriented buds, single or not over the couples and singles that have party mentality.
Also, some people, like introverts,just need one good friend to stay happy and prefer to be in quieter places and home is a HAVEN.
Extroverts need more friends, and the exciting, going out night life.
So knowing this, sounds like your BF knows more about what keeps him happy, centred, and charged and I say KUDOS.
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