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writes:If a couple's interests change and drift apart over 11 years to the point where they share very few personal goals, can they still be happy and fulfilled together?Do any of you who have been in long relationships have insight into this?I feel like I am driven by my career and have grown into an aggressive person. My girlfriend of 11 years (we are not concerned with marriage) is driven by her passion for helping others and remains fairly shy. She wants me to succeed, but isn't particularly interested in what I do. I want her to be happy and fulfilled, but I often don't understand her empathy and her need to put other people and causes before herself.It's hard for me to understand her lack of drive in propelling herself professionally. I like that she is a very compassionate person. I just sense distance between us.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 February 2010):
So talk to her about it. Maybe get some counselling. Tell her you feel as if your relationship is drifting apart and start to work on it. She might feel the same way but she might not know how to approach you about it. So talk to her and tell you feel like you're drifting apart and would like to fix it.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (28 February 2010):
 Have you talked, or tried to talk, to your girlfriend about your feelings of drifting apart? If you want to save the relationship you can, but it will need some work and committment from both of you. A few counselling sessions wouldn't go astray either
good luck with it
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